Nancy Lanza divorced Adam’s father, Peter, in 2008

Another divorce and broken family ends in tragedy. I wonder what drove the killer's mother to divorce the father? Perhaps, she felt constrained by marriage and children. Or, maybe she needed to figure out who she really was and find her place in the universe so she could fulfill her destiny and become in touch with her soul. Maybe, she hadn't found her soul mate yet, and wanted a person who would have more in common with her preferably an millionaire expert Italian cook with a taste for equestrian sports and Tuscan vacationing. Life is too short to not find your Italian cooking, equestrian, and Tuscan tromping, soulmate.

 

Yes, its the WOMAN's FAULT! It is ALWAYS the WOMAN"S FAULT!

Oh, yes, the mother is CERTAINLY the one who DEMANDED divorce, the father was a good guy who stayed away because the mother FORCED him to! HE would have stayed FOREVER, but the woman needed to "find herself"!! He got a new wife jsut to keep hous for him, and fill his lonely hours showing him pictures of his son!

Its them "liberated wimmen" destroying our chillen! Yessireebob!

Sickening.

Yes, the boy's father must simply have remarried to be told bedtime stories as he cried himself to sleep missing his son by this young attractive librarian. What is she, 20 years younger than the father? 25 years younger? More? There is no reason he would have ever left his family except for the "evil selfish mother" throwing him out. Here's the "innocent dad's" new wife:

 

Your speculative statements are usually wrong. I don't know why this time should be any different.

 

You what is sick? Not reading the article.

 

Indeed, the "blame the victim" seems to have reared it's ugly head.

Why wait for actual facts to emerge when pure, unadulterated nonsensical accusation through implication can be put forth?

There are tens of millions of folks in this country who have had divorced parents. These kids do not murder one of their parents and more than 20 others because of the divorce. Perhaps the explanation is a bit more complex than simply accusing one of the victims of being materialistic.

 

You should blame Henry VIII for divorces in America.

 

I think the facts on this divorce were just reported. The effect of divorce on the kids are well known.

My speculation as to the cause is based on the View and watching the Lifetime channel in the Doctor's office over the years.

 

well she did well with the divorce i see
took the father to the cleaners doesnt need a provider anymore, the father felt bad and gave her this nice home to raise the kids in, note his father recently married again this could of made the kid mad pushed him to the edge at his mother.

 

Henry used the church for his easy divorces. Progressives used the state.

 

The facts also suggest he did this because he's deeply disturbed not because his parents got a divorce.

 

Of course all the PR put out by the husband's lawyer is true.

Painting the extra cash over the legal minimum as "generosity" when it is actually "hush money" about the affair with a young woman is standard procedure for executives wanting to keep a "honest" image.

Using a divorce as BLAME for a woman ending up with a child alone is ALWAYS BS. The father can be there if he wants to be, with rare exception. But in THIS case we can be SURE he had a pleasant distraction to keep him busy enough to not have to deal with the troublesome son.

 

Are you actually trying to blame a mother who loved and cared for her mentally disturbed son and was subsequently murdered by him for this tragedy, because she got divorced? The poor woman is the most tragic figure in this entire incident.

 

Too bad she never heard of a Gun Safe.

 

Really?

A woman who stuck with him during his climb up the ladder doesn't deserve anything of the success? Even with children, she has no need of a "provider"? To have a home to raise the kids is is a "favor" from the father and he is a"hero" to help out?


Yes, women should pay close attention to what the Right Wing males think is "honorable behavior".

 

Like what?

 

So, you are saying that the father had an affair? What is the evidence of that?

 

Ultimately, she is at fault for not securing her weapons from her "disturbed" son.

 

I blame divorce for being a contributing factor of many social ills including crime and violence. It certainly may be a factor in this case.

Are you a Muslim? What is the Muslim view on easy divorce?

 

He got a divorce.

Where is the evidence for YOUR assertion the wife asked for the divorce because she "wanted to find herself"? Couldn't it be she caught him in the sack with his "librarian" cutie?

 

I'm sure your going to get flamed but sans the sarcasm I believe you do have a valid point.
The family is under attack and I'm sorry, but 2 mommies, 2 daddies, 1 mommy and a string of uncles, 1 daddy and a string of aunts, my family mixed with yours etc. etc. - is not the optimal environment to raise children. The optimal environment to raise children are a man and a woman with a commitment to each other and more importantly a commitment to the children they bring in to the world to provide a safe, loving and consistent environment for them to grow up in.

Perhaps in this instance dad was a layabout sloth who ran off with ~fill-in-the-blank~
Or yes, maybe mom was a dissatisfied woman in need to 'find' herself.

Either way it does not excuse the actions of the son, but it does expose a cultural short-coming in our society that puts us all at risk despite the posturing of those who would like to deny this and re-define family.

And this Bull(*)(*)(*)(*) about too many children without homes so any combination of adults (or single adults who want and can afford a pet human) being a safety net does not hold water. There are way too many people who meet the requirements of a stable home that wait years to adopt if they can get a child at all.

- Now let the bombing begin because I have expressed a view counter to progressive re-definition . . .

 

That's what I figured. Nada.

 

Thanks.

I walk through the flames unscathed-BTW.

 

Wow...can this OP be any more revealing about the posters thinking....someone's projecting a bit much

 

ARE YOU KIDDING?!

The guy was 16 when his parents divorced! Paul Ryan's dad DIED when he was 16. Paul Ryan had to save up social security benefits for college. This guy's dad was sending nearly $150K a year in alimony to the guy's mom. Has Paul Ryan murdered 20 kids recently? What are you saying?!

If your parents split when you were 16 and your dad was cutting checks totalling $150K a year you would murder 20 little kids? What is wrong with you?!

 

I had missed the info that the mother took her x to the cleaners.... from what I read, it was an amicable divorce - no bitterness, anger, etc that you often read about........

People do divorce and still stay friends and are involved in their kids lives.

You know, I seriously doubt that a divorce or no divorce wouldn't have made one iota of a difference to this kid's mental state..... this guy was to far gone.

I'm guessing he may have killed his mother b/c she found out he had her gun and asked for it back....

But who knows? We'll never know..... what a tragedy that all those kids & adults had to pay the price for parents who didn't see the warning signs that he was a walking time bomb and get him some help.

When your kid has a mental disorder and on top of it, is a loner and hardly talks, especially to his own peers, which people said this Adam was like, that is a glaring red flag. I don't understand why 2 educated people like his parents couldn't see that......