Harvard professor says the left are the most unhappiest people, especially the women

This has to do with societal changes as well. So many young women nowadays are sold the narrative that independence = strength, promiscuity is positive, live your best life while you can, etc. It's setting a lot of young women up for failure and as they get older and realize that it's oftentimes too late for many of them. Liberal women tend to adhere to those aforementioned principles more than Conservative women do. It's not absolute of course but it's skewed more towards the left side than the right. Nearly every study shows the same exact thing more or less. The most unhappy demographic in America are single women over the age of 30 to 35+.

The reason for that I believe is what I mentioned before. Liberal women tend to buy into the independent woman narrative being sold by society believing it equates to a better life of more instant gratification. It does somewhat in the moment but it's damaging in the long run. The whole "live it up hot girl summer, be happy and never settle" narrative tends to peak in the 20s and fades in the 30s. The problem is by the time it fades and women realize ok this isn't fun anymore I want to settle down it tends to be too late. The damage is done and living a life like that early on tends to be an undesirable trait that's stuck with you going forward. Here's the conundrum, most women once reaching the age of wanting to settle down and get married and start a family are attracted to the same type of man. Successful, stable, mature, etc. However, once men reach that status they tend to not be attracted to women who bought into the narrative of run amok in your 20s and don't hold more traditional values. Oh yes young men love young women who act like that when they're both young but when both reach the level of maturity to want to settle down and cut that out the men don't tend to find that attractive anymore. That leaves a lot of women in a terrible situation. Now you're 35 and want to find a husband but the men you want don't want you back, they want someone younger without the "history" you have. That leads a lot of women to establish resentment towards men for having "unfair" standards for women. What that leaves is A LOT of women who are 35+ years old who are single and no longer want to be and it makes them unhappy. And the older they get the harder it becomes. And all of this becomes exacerbated exponentially if the woman also has a child.

It's heartbreaking honestly. The keys to happiness are simply not what modern society is trying to sell for most people. That goes for both men and women. For a lot of men being the million dollar playboy is the dream when they're younger but that tends to fade as they get older and mature and realize that a wife and children is more fulfilling in the long run. Men can recover easier from that than women can primarily due to the way that men and women are biologically programmed. That's why these unhappiness studies all tend to uncover similar results that begin at a pretty specific age of 35+. It's more difficult for a 35+ year old single woman to find a husband that she actually WANTS than it is for a 35+ year old man who is financially stable and mature to find a wife. It's simply because women still desire a 35+ year old man who is successfully financially stable and mature but a successful financially mature 35+ man doesn't tend to want a 35+ year old woman. These are of course generalities and there are obviously exceptions to all of this. But on the bell curve...yeah it's like that.

 

Yeah pretty much and I find it pretty sad. I blame them to some extent but I also blame society who taught them these falsehoods in their youth. Somehow "modern society", especially the Western world, has convinced ourselves we are so much more intelligent than those before us and we will make a point to restructure society differently than virtually any other human civilization in the history of the planet and are finding out the hard way that it's not working.

Oh sure we're more technologically advanced than ever before, we are more affluent and comfortable than ever before, but we are also more unhappy than ever before and it's the PEOPLE of society who suffer the consequences.

It also has to do with our modern definition of "happiness". Another primary reason why there are unfortunately so many unhappy single women in their 40s is because society is way too encouraging of peoples completely unrealistic standards of happiness. It's perfectly OK to be content, being content and grateful for what you have is way more of a healthy outlook than the never ending pursuit of perfection. Folks treat "content" as a naughty word, it's "settling" and you should never "settle" for less than what you "deserve". No that's complete nonsense, it's not "settling" it's called living in reality. Take any theoretical 40 year old unhappy single woman. There is a roughly 99% chance that her being single now is self induced either in the present tense or historically or both. Men talk to women, it's what we do, either in person or online or whatever. Nearly every woman in the western world has received male attention before outside of some extreme outliers. Most receive attention on a routine basis. Yet how many of these men has she rejected for whatever reason over the years? Out of this pool of men there was likely at least one man who wanted more than just a casual encounter but he didn't meet all of her "qualifications". She wasn't going to "settle" for anything other than exactly what she wanted. And now fast forward to 40 years old and unrepentant hand of reality strikes hard. It's time to settle because real life isn't a Disney movie and the proverbial prince charming of her fantasy doesn't actually exist. It's time to find a guy that's more grounded in reality but at least has his life together and is mature and stable. But guess what? Those men don't want a 40 year old woman with cats because successful stable men like that are attractive to all women throughout the age groups and now HE has options. Now HE can pick and choose and he's likely not going to choose "you". No he's probably not going to be able to marry a supermodel nor is he expecting to because men tend to have more realistic standards than women, but he can likely find a woman more attractive to him both mentally and physical than a single 40 year old woman.

It's not that complicated, those before us figured this out since the beginning of structured human civilization. The average woman who married an average guy and started a normal average family is statistically more happy than the so called strong independent woman who "knows what she wants" and refuses to ever "settle" for anything less than the man of her dreams. And yes Liberal women buy into that at a much higher rate than Conservative women do. Those are the ones who then end up 40 years old and pissed off at the world talking about how much men suck and how we need to crush the patriarchy while secretly going home at night crying because they're lonely and miserable. It's not rocket science, if virtually every study shows that single 35+ year old women are the most unhappy demographic in the western world then why would you set yourself up to be 35+ years old and single? Stop listening to liberal feminists, they are incorrect and the raw data proves it.

 

I wouldn't care much about the more extreme feminist's if they simply lived by their own principles and left everyone else alone. My problem stems from their outreach program and the negative influence it's having on young women. Their arguments are literally causing irreparable damage to so many young women who buy into their nonsense and it's extremely sad. I've had similar experiences as you've mentioned. Nearly every girl I went to high school and college with sought steady relationships and marriage at their age outside of a few exceptions. And luckily for them we lived in a relatively small southern town with normal traditional values before most of this extreme feminist nonsense had a chance to gain a foothold. Fast forward to today and all the ones I still have on my Facebook are married with families and seem perfectly happy. The few exceptions I mentioned? Well I have a couple on my Facebook that I browse through from time and time and they are exactly the way we figured they'd be. Militant Leftist feminists who routinely post asking what happened to real men in the world and how much men suck. Why? Because they're miserable, they bought into the feminist narrative in their college years and now as they've gotten much older they feel scorned as the reality of their situation sets in. I know one in particular very well, we still talk on occasion and she is definitely miserable. I honestly feel bad for her even though she is extremely hostile and difficult to talk to. I understand somewhat because I know her hostility is the result of internal strife. She is the textbook example of what I mentioned in my earlier post, ran amok to an extreme degree in her teens and 20s and ended up with multiple out of wedlock children with multiple different men. Now unfortunately shes found herself with a situation that not even regular non financially successful men want anything to do with let alone the men she desires.

As harsh as it sounds the reality is the reality. Shes probably screwed. Virtually NO MAN regardless of social class wants a woman like that. I genuinely feel bad for her as I've watched her story progress from afar online. Shes trying really hard to better herself physically, working out, getting healthy, etc. To great results mind you. We actually talked recently and she asked me bluntly what I as a guy thinks she needs to "improve" more about herself in order to be attractive to men. I didn't have the heart to tell her even though she had pissed me off earlier in the conversation with her rhetoric but I'm not so cruel as to punch someone while their already down. So I just simply said keep doing what you're doing, you look great good job. The reality is lady you're well past your 20s and you have 4 children with at least 3 different dads...I wouldn't marry you even you paid me seven figures to do so and I don't know a single man of my social economic status who would either...