It's extremely rare that I would agree w/you,but I do here..... there is heartache and tragedies all around this planet - some worse than others. We've all gone thru trials and tribulations. Like I said in another post, my family is gone, but I've been blessed by still having my kids.... I have 2 friends who each had a young adult child who totally disappeared yrs ago, never seen again and the PD's never found a clue as to what happened to him & her. (separate cases) To me, that would be the ultimate heartache - never knowing what happened to my child...... At least, w/a funeral you know and you can put him/her to rest....
Some people are motivated and fueled by adversity, others take it out on other people. Take it from someone who has done a lot of the former, and a lot of the latter. You can either let it eat you up (sts), or you can sack the (*)(*)(*)(*) up and carry on. You posted this for a reason, and it was because someone called out your (*)(*)(*)(*)-poor attitude towards love. No amount of (*)(*)(*)(*) built up on someone is enough to justify that. And don't give me any lip about not looking for a response, because that is exactly why you posted that.
I'm cool with who you are I just know that things will change when you decide to be a little more positive. I wouldn't waste my time telling you if I didn't believe you will do it.
Maybe it's because I am desensitized to it, but it would hardly matter to me. Whether you know the cause or not, they're gone and no amount of worry/wonder will change that. You have to move on with your life. There's a reason I'm not a counselor...
I meant brutal for others even thou i said I would like to know. I'm with you. I am pretty indifferent about death anymore.
Hard to believe some people are single. Oh well, hopefully they get the attention they seek by making threads.
You've had a pretty rough time of it and I wish you the best..... Sounds like you're now doing ok in your life - except for this present situation, but that will pass and you'll be back home and moving on. You're smart not to be looking for a relationship - that'll happen when you're ready for it.......
Maybe, if they were the type to whine about their lives to complete strangers on the internet, only to remind them immediately afterward that they don't care what people think.
You really think so? You're not a mother now, but when you are... I think you might change your mind. The friends both know their children are gone and they've realized this for a long time now. That realization doesn't stop the heartache and wondering what had happened to them.........
I want to care and go back and forth about it. I probably would but I, like the other poster, am somewhat immune to many feelings.
I'm not cut out for that role, and the fact that I wouldn't change my mind is a piece of the puzzle why. I'm hardwired to throw everything behind me. Well, being "immune" to feelings would not be like me. I don't know anyone who is immune to feelings, unless that person is pretending to be Spock. It's how people deal with them that creates the difference.
Before any drug ever resolves an emotional problem, low oil pressure in engines will be resolved by putting black tape over the idiot light.
Agreed. I think I am having a difficult time explaining my position. I'll regroup and try again later. Long days at work are killing my brain.
Not to sure what you mean here, so let's try again and m/b we'll get on the same page..... I was talking about 2 friends who's young adult kids disappeared a long time ago and neither were never found..... I had said that has to be the ultimate heartache for a parent to have to live with - the child disappeared and the parent never finds out what happened to his/her kid. I think most people, parents or not, can relate to how horrible that would be for the parents of missing kid.........
I was just having a hard time communicating. Even though I have little emotions anymore i would feel bad for the parents if they didn't ever know what happened to their children. Sorry, I'm super tired and way over worked.
Ok, fair enuf. Some women know they're not meant to be mothers. Much better for the woman to know that ahead of time and not have baby, then have baby and realize she wasn't meant to be a mom...... That's happened and that's not good...... my biological mother did that and she didn't know what to do w/cute little me.....
Why is it an issue whether she makes a thread about going on a date or not? I guess you could say that any thread anyone starts is "seeking attention" from complete strangers, or else they wouldn't spend time on a forum.
Well she does talk about it like it's almost a chore - why go on a date with such a cynical attitude anyway? - I thought the idea was to have fun.
I always assume you go on dates to have fun. I never went into one dreading it. If I did I just wouldn't go and save everyone the trouble.
It was never a "chore" at home, But I invite you to come here and see what a "chore" is. All you know about me is what I've told you. You know nothing of my circumstances living here, you know nothing of the people around me, so in short you know nothing about my cynical attitude. Walk a mile in my shoes and then tell me how much your feet ache.
