What is Your Idea of "Being a Man"?

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  1. unkotare

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    Often. Most men can't. Some women can.
     
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    source please lol



    male, doesn't mean your a man?

    we all do
    does this include Short Pants?
     
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    Well, yeah..
     
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    Spending time with hot 20-somethings. Do I win?

    Not actually my idea of "being a man" but it sure reminds you that you are one. :)

    I will try to convey a learning experience without going into all of the spicy details: My ex wife and I had not slept in the same bed for ten years. I had given up on the idea of ever having a sex life again. I thought I could focus on my work and trying to help save the planet. And for a time that worked. However eventually I found myself putting a gun to my head and trying to pull the trigger,

    The next day I told the wife I wanted a divorce. Eventually I found myself in what I called hot-babe boot camp. I was spending time in a strip club so as to get used to hot, naked young women. And one especially beautiful young lady gave me a lap dance I will never forget. She also got a little excited herself. The next day I could feel that my pant leg was moist. I thought someone had spilled a drink. But when I smelled it, it was her.

    The next thing I knew, this deep, primal, lion-like growl came out of me without even thinking about it. It was absolutely primal. It truly shocked me. I didn't even know I could produce a sound like that. It was the animal coming back to life. It was an awakening of a part of me that had all but died. And it was about as male as you can get.

    And I truly have been dating hot 20-somethings [for the most part] ever since.
     
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    Oh yes, when I divorced the ex, I still didn't have any will to live lift. But the thought of having sex with hot women was worth living a little longer. That is literally what stopped me from pulling the trigger. So I figured I'd get laid for awhile and then end it.

    I went to Reno and hired two high-end escorts for a weekend. By the end of the weekend I was a new man. I had started to regain the will to live again. I never expected that! And it made me realize that the need for sex and female companionship was far greater than I ever imagined. When my sex life at home died, I started to die as well. Life eventually became intolerable. And because I was a loyal husband who would never cheat or even consider divorce, the only other option was death.
     
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    Well, I hafta agree....women in their physical prime are a great hobby. I apologize for my misogynism in advance :).
     
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    Heh. I wouldn't use the word hobby. In fact I fall in love at the drop of a hat LOL! I work very hard to find meaningful friendships and not just sex. And my first young lady [whom I met by accident, fell madly in love with, and saw for 3 years] admitted after 18 months that she loved me too. But essentially we agree. It is primal. It is biology. And frankly I stopped apologizing for it a long time ago. It is in our nature and I won't apologize for that. Most men of all ages are attracted to beautiful young women. In my case, I am able to pursue that without any regrets or guilt. Of course from day 1 my prime directive has been "Do no harm.". I always try my best to be a kind and thoughtful gentleman. And it turns out that helps me get the ladies as well!
     
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    my wife was very ill for years when she passed away in about 2 months dating, it worked out for me as I liked being married ! God rewarded me with a hot wife who cares for me!
     
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    I'm a man who doesn't really like being around men usually. My dad is almost superhuman and my best friend ever is a man, but otherwise generally would rather be around women. I don't believe in clear gender roles. I think I expect men to be more sex-driven, more impulsive, less social, more ego-driven, physically stronger, poorer at conversation, less anxious, than women on average. But when I think of what I want men to be, it's not really any different from what I want women to be. Fun, honest, strong, smart, laid-back, hard-working, takes responsibility for their actions. I've never been told by anybody significant to me that men shouldn't cry or be emotional.
     
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    Before I left my ex, as I said, I hit rock bottom. And I very nearly did end it all. My marriage had been 25 years of mostly hell. Of course it wasn't just that. My business was collapsing, which started with the 2008 crash. My health was spiraling out of control and I felt terrible all the time. My closes friends and family members died or were lost to other problems. And I sat alone and worked 12-20 hours a day with no hope of any way out. But I didn't realize that living without sex and companionship is what made the rest more than I could bear.

    After I left, quite by accident I met a stunningly beautiful young lady who was 21 years old and truly the most beautiful woman I and ever met. I fell madly in love with her - more than I thought it was possible to love anyone. And my 3 years with her were the three greatest years of my life. I didn't a person could be so happy. It was like living in a dream. And while I always knew I couldn't hope to keep her, and letting go was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, I don't regret a moment of it. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I wondered if God sent me an angel for all the hell I had lived through and been faithful.
     
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    Being a man: After going through my personal crisis, I began to watch those around me. I started noticing patterns. I started to remember examples of men who were terribly unhappy, or used; men who busted their butts their entire lives and then just dropped dead. I started really noticing the way other men have always talked about marriage and sex. All of the jokes about never getting laid after marriage started coming to mind. The countless jokes and comments about husbands and wives eventually hating each other. Like the old joke about the three stages of sex in a marriage: First you do it everywhere and anywhere, all the time. Then you end up in bed having sex fewer and fewer nights out of the month. Finally you get to hallway sex. That's where you pass each other in the hall and say F YOU as you pass.

    More and more I began to see how many men are miserable their entire adult lives and then they die. That's it. Our job is to work till we drop and make sure we have a good life insurance policy. We are supposed to take care of our wives and children and be selfless. The problem is, this model made more sense when women took care of their men. But now it is all supposed be equal. But it isn't equal. The roles of women in a marriage have changed dramatically. But for men, not so much. We are still just supposed to work ourselves to death. My wife never cooked for me or did my laundry or really much of any of the traditional roles of a housewife. But I still was expected to do all of the traditional male jobs - you know, the nasty ones no one wants to do. The ones involving truly hard labor. The dangerous jobs. The stinky jobs. In the mean time, she played in the garden.

    And it wasn't just me. I started to see this in the men all around me. And most of all, I saw what I called the walking dead. Those are the men who are like I was - living in a thankless, sexless, nowhere marriage where life is essentially over and just waiting to die. Men like that are all around. Once you learn to see it you can't miss it. I also saw on TV and in movies and commercials how men are constantly demeaned and often portrayed as stupid. Women have all the answers and the men are just a bunch of dolts. That message comes through time and time again. And as for sex, my wife started cutting me off on our wedding night. But of course I took it like a man. I believed her lies and did the "right thing".

    So finally I rejected it all! I rejected all that I had been or come to believe. I decided to live the greatest adventure I could imagine and I have done so ever since. I have been with many of the most beautiful women you've ever seen. I have done things most men can only dream about. But it required total reckless abandon and starting a completely new life. The person I was effectively died ten years ago. In many ways I did pull the trigger on that cold and lonely night and was reborn a free man.
     
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    Oh Fabio.... Regale us with more tales of your hundreds of the world's most beautiful women that you have bedded.....lol.

    :rolleyes:
     
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    What is Your Idea of "Being a Man" ?

    ~ Don't ask us .. ! We are not Biologists .
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    Not at all. I'm just a really nice guy who works hard to find beautiful women. Sorry you don't have it in you.
     
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    I have learned the hard way that if I share my lifestyle with a buddy, it usually isn't good; especially if I share photos of the women I've dated. Most men end up getting jealous. I have a number of ideas about why this may be but I can only guess. Since they are "happily married" I didn't expect that reaction. But then some later admitted they aren't so happy. So that I understand.

    I do know that the men who seem to truly resent my lifestyle the most are ones who would never be willing to make the effort and sacrifices necessary. They are selfish and they aren't very nice. And a big part of my natural charm is that I am truly very kind and giving. That matters to a lot of women. They care far more about that than what you drive or own.

    But in the end it is a numbers game. There are gorgeous women out there who are willing to see me. I just have to find them. And that is why I have communicated with over 6000 women and been on over 135 coffee dates. If you want the best you have to do the work. And finding stunningly beautiful women willing to be with a man 30 to 35 years older takes a lot of charm, wit, persistence, and work.
     
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    They can also sense that I adore them. And women loved being adored. You just have to be very cool about it. No gushing or spilling of emotions. Just cool and steady with an open heart. One of my strengths is that I am absolutely crazy about beauty. I can and have fallen in love with beauty. And a gorgeous woman usually appreciates that. Then I can only hope the person is lovable as well. But that takes time. If not, it doesn't last long but it can still be fun for a few months.
     
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    Oh yes, and I have taken a hell of a beating over the last 7 years of doing this. The first young lady I met by chance and that lasted 3 years. But when she finally needed to move on, I decided to find a relationship like that again. And man I got my butt kicked for about the first year. But slowly I learned the ropes [pun intended] and learned how to filter. I still get had from time to time but at first it was almost every time! Most of the women who seem interested are scammers. But with time you learn to read the scams and filter out the hookers trying to trick you into meeting them, and boil it down to women truly interested in the same thing I hope to find.

    Now my success rate is probably about 1 out of every 4 coffee dates - meaning that once a woman agrees to meet for coffee, about 1 in 4 times things work out and we see each other for some period of time ranging from months to years. But at first my success rate was more like 1 in 20. Scam after scam after scam. And hookers... when I have made it abundantly clear I'm not looking for a hooker. But honestly I think they can't imagine otherwise LOL! So they just assume... From time to time I show someone the women I've dated and they are truly shocked. They apparently just assume all women out there are hookers. LOL! But that only happened in the very beginning. The key is to make it clear we are only meeting for coffee. We aren't going to a hotel or their place afterwards.

    But the amount of time I spent getting burned at first was huge. By the time I actually meet someone for coffee I have a fair amount of time invested. And the date itself is another half a day at least. Sometimes the drive to meet them was over an hour each way.

    But when I find the right one it can be magic. It makes me feel like a young man again. It makes me want to get up in the morning. And best of all, sometimes I fall in love. There is nothing better.

    I just have to be willing to let go when the time comes. I can only hope to keep them for awhile.
     
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    Your so very nice that you called me a liar when I was foolish enough to share my girlfriend's experience with cancer. Tell it to someone gullible enough to believe your fictions, Fabio.

    Calling me a liar over speaking of her cancer is " very nice" on what planet?

    And I "have it in me".....my relationships actually last. I don't change women like dirty tee shirts....

    Or at least try selling that BS to the board...
     
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    I for one am enjoying @HereWeGoAgain manosphere reports from the field that are all 100% true. It has nothing to do with the thread topic of course...
     
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    "A superior man knows what is right. "Being a superior man is what interests me. Anything less is an inferior man.
     
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    Yeah, I think that pretty much nails it. We can't escape the genetics of masculinity. It's all about survival of the species (or survival of the kind). Watch the other animals and how the males strut their stuff, and it all makes sense.

    Now add in the cultural part of it and things change a bit. Attracting females is primary. How we do it is dependent on our social group. That's the thing that's in a state of flux these days.

    It seems that what you're pointing out is linked to how we tend to think in binary terms. The old notions of male and female were rather polar. Those notions are losing that polarity, but I'd say males still tend to see it the old way more than the new. But times are changing.
     
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