I want them to love America the way the Asians and Europeans do too. But it's never going to happen. Never! Face reality. I love this part of your post. I could've written it myself when I was in my late teens. I've now given up on ever expecting them to join us in showing American society that respect.
I see someone didn't get the memo. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:White_supremacist_groups_in_the_United_States
No one said black supremacists don't exist, but they're far outnumbered in terms of groups by white supremacists.