Poll for Straight People Only

I say the polls aren't honest because of the political ramifications and what people might perceive someone that is straight admitting that its not black and white. I know that if you form an attachment to a person, the feelings make you think its right. When you have sexual relations with someone, endorphins flood your brain and you get a sense of euphoria. One may perceive that as attraction to a gender when in fact its just an in the moment thing. I Have watched people that thought they were gay bounce back and forth and visa versa. In fact, its almost the "in" thing among kids these days. Most grow out of it.

I think there is way too much emphasis placed on what people are doing in their bedrooms. But because we are pressured to "pick a side" we have allowed ourselves a black and white view, when in fact, its not.

 

I'm pretty much surrounded by gays, mostly males. Some of them are quite beautiful. I've been educated in this by gay friends who have pointed out certain characteristics which they find attractive.

I'm aware that this is also a societal thing and as a straight male there are certain physical attributes we are encouraged to appreciate in women and to a certain extent this works.

However in different parts of the world the "ideal" female form is far different to the idealised western model.

That said, while I can appreciate that a certain male would be considered "beautiful" I would feel no sexual attraction whatsoever towards him but could be really turned on by a woman that society would consider to be "average".

Surely, if choice were involved, I'd be more attracted to a guy who was 10 out of 10 than to a woman who was say a 6 out of 10 (I know this is crude I just can't find another way to express it) especially if both "options" were available.

I'm pretty sure, for most people, core sexuality is not a choice and is determined at a very early age if not from birth.

 

Interesting results. It very much matches up with what many scientist are finding these days.

I don't see where most people choose their sexual-orientation.

 

FWIW, I have seen this "identity trajectory" a couple of times:

A female self-identifies as straight, but has unsatisfying relations with men.

She then has satisfying relations with one or more women, and starts self-identifying as gay.

At a later date, she has satisfying relations with one or more men, and then resumes her self-identification as straight.

So, maybe too many incompetent men can turn a straight woman gay....

 

You move in interesting circles....

 

Collies, I suppose?

 

Except for felonious daydreaming, nothing occurred.

 

I believe that homosexuals are born gay. I had the experience with one particular close family member, which I saw grow up from a new born to the age of 20 and since the age of about three I noticed his feministic traits and I told my wife about it, who said that it didn't have to be that way because he was born male. We always had a close eye on him and me in particular. I would try to teach him "male" things to try to distract him from his peculiar behavior but it was to no avail. Last year I heard him confess to his mother that he was gay. I had a co-worker who trusted me very much and one Christmas eve that we worked together he told me: "I trust you very much. If I told you something, would you not laugh at me or tell anyone else?" Deep inside I knew what he was going to tell me so I just stalled a little and he said, ah never mind! Then I said: "Yeah, go ahead. No problem!" Then he told me this story about his uncle raping him on various occasions, so asked him why he didn't tell his father or mother and he said he didn't, because they wouldn't believe him because his uncle was married and then he added jokingly: "I also liked it!". Then I told him that he could stop if we wanted to because he was married and had two children and he said that he believed that he could even though it was difficult. I told him that if he could stop that he should. He said: "I'm going to try hard". About 4 months later he was murdered, close to our work area by a supposed drug addict. I believe that he was gay since birth and got married to try to prove or hide that he wasn't. Sad, but that's how life is sometimes.

 

This is an anonymous forum. No one on here is really "admitting" anything. But this poll is consistent with completely anonymous polls I have seen too. Do you have any anonymous polls with different results?

You have no way of knowing that this is true of everyone. The fact that it might be true for you personally (or a few people you know) does not mean it is true for everyone.

My experience has been exactly the opposite, and is consistent with this poll.

In my experience, it is black and white, even among Bi people...I have never met a person who defined themselves as bi who did not gravitate to one side way more than the other.

I think a lot of people who think it isnt black and white want to convince themselves that it is not black and white. So they manufacture feelings that are not really there. Marilyn Manson comes to mind...he has done a LOT of really gay things in public...yet all his actual relationships are hetero. He is gay for attention, but thats not where his actual urges lay. I have known people like that personally as well.

Women are especially prone to this behavior IMO. I think thats where the myth that "all women are bi if you get them drunk enough" comes from. They do it for attention ("See how fun and open minded I am?") or because they are trying to convince themselves that they are open. But when left to their own devices (sober, no one else is watching, not abused, ect..) most of them choose men again.

 

That's neither a gay thing nor a straight thing, that's a "victim thing". If a woman were telling you about being repeatedly raped by an uncle and "liking it" would you simply take that as evidence that she was born heterosexual?

 

I don't know what the point of these stories are. Most homosexuals have not been molested.

 

Jedi Miller started another thread insisting that homosexuality is a choice. This poll has been very useful.

 

Hmm, interesting that liberals now are claiming that you are either hetero or homo. I thought Kinsey said that sexuality is a spectrum, and that people range from 0 (exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (exclusively homosexual) (Kinsey Scale). If so, 1-5 have their choice.

As a heterosexual, I can choose who I'm not going to have sex with. I would think 1-5's could choose which sex not to have sex with.

 

But that's not the question.
The question is whether you can choose who to be attracted to (or who not to be attracted to, I guess).

 

I couldn't change my preferences if I wanted to.

I have been, am, and probably always will be attracted to brunette women with light eyes.

The notion of sexuality being a choice is just play by the religious right. Just a ploy to marginalize the homosexuals societal and legal position. No different than the vile racists on PF claiming that African Americans are homoerectus and something other than homosapien.

 

This poll is stupid....Of course someone could choose to be gay or straight...and there are some people who have....But that does not mean that 100% of all gays chose it. There are many who simply were born with a homonal inbalance that causes them to be attracted to the same sex.

 

Notice none of the 5 who said they might "change their mind" identified themselves?
I think they were BS votes to try to support he whackjob agenda...

 

The poll is not anonymous. You can click on the numbers to see.

My guess is that most of the ones who said yes were joking.

 

I think we need to remember that this poll concerns sexual orientation - to whom you are naturally attracted, not whether you might choose to bonk another guy (like if you were in prison) or not.

I know that I have no choice over whether I am physically attracted to chicks or not. I would suggest most straight guys feel this way. The poll results are pretty conclusive in that respect.

 

Why is the poll restricted to heterosexuals? I imagine the inclusion of homosexuals would provide the same results.

 

Because gay responses will be dismissed as "predictable".

The point of the poll was to illustrate to various people on this forum that sexuality is not something that is a choice.

 

The poll was made public deliberately, because I didnt want any claims of "OMG teh gheys are skewing teh numbrs!!!11!!1!!!"

So all the people in this poll are proclaiming themselves heteros.

It is a spectrum. But how many people fall exactly in the middle?

A man that is 90% gay and 10% straight is gay. He obviously prefers men even if he also likes women a little.