For the most part, the LBGTQ community and allies mostly laughed about the 'gay agenda' because the way the term was used by the straight community, and specifically by the conservative Christian community was pretty silly. Trying to have a serious conversation with the folks that were inclined to use the term, was a waste of time. We learned more about their agenda than we could teach them about our own. I tried to tell them what was really on the gay agenda as I saw and interpreted the plan. It was mostly a political agenda in its most narrow sense. It was about gay rights, old school stuff like rights not to be targeted by cops, and laws and politicians. It was about seeing ourselves and lives accurately reflected in media, being represented in all fields of endeavor and professions. We wanted to be and see doctors, lawyers, teachers, actors, singers, and politicans regardless of orientation. It was about being left alone to be gay, open and free without losing jobs, housing, services and or benefits because we were gay open and free. Eventually we began to aspire to legal protection in our unions, first civil unions then in marriage. We sought about tolerance from acquaintances, employers and authority figures in our lives, and acceptance from loved ones and friends. What about kids? We had an agenda there too. We wanted access to our children. No discrimination in family court and the same right to adopt as anyone else. We wanted to kids to learn that being gay was not a terrible dreadful thing, that gay people were going to pop up in their lives as uncles, friends, teachers, maybe their own children and whereever they popped up, they were to be treated with dignity and decency, not as sick deviants or pedophiles. Frankly, for the most part, we have achieved most of this over the last 40 years. Its been a stunning social and legal transformation. There just isn't all that much to do on that agenda and I haven't many complaints except that our gay agenda was way too narrow and too focused on how we were treated by others, rather than how we treated others. I generalize but what was not on high on the agenda was in the 70's 80's and 90's... 1. Sexism . We did not spend time talking about how gay men, were treating gay women and their struggle for equality - in our movement! 2. Racism. It was just not talked about either. LBGTQ people of color could not get the rest of us to take their issues seriously because we were too 'liberal' too 'progressive' to need any of those talks. 3. Agism. The way we talked about 'old queers and queens' embarrasses the hell out of me now. They stopped being mentors, protectors and teachers once we needed fewer, and turned into caracatures we wanted nothing to do with. 4. The external and internalized body shaming. Study after study shows eating disorders are far more common among gay men that straight men, and yet we still aren't doing much to stop the drive for a perfect body to attract a man, and the myriad of ways we tell each other that we are failing.