Wonder if at least two people on here would have the courage to admit that they sleep around? Let's face it, it goes on large scale, and always has. So I would be stunned if there were not a good % on here who do. I would not judge anyone for doing so. I am 42, and have done a lot in my life, gone through various phases. Maybe once upon a time, I did it, probably to boost my ego, if I am being honest. But I have always enjoyed being with one person I really liked, much more. It got to the stage though in which, at least for me, it starts to feel a bit pointless. I used to find myself asking, what is the use of making conversation with a girl that I am not that interested in, flattering her when I am not really sincere about it, and sleeping with her, when she does not really hit the spot. So I ceased that altogether. I have been single over a year now. When I broke up with my ex, I told myself I was going date, but I would not sleep around, with anyone, until I met someone that I liked enough to date first, have the start of possible relationship. I'm only human, so at times it was difficult, lol, but I stuck to my principle. My point is that I am glad I was patient and did that, because I have now met someone that I think, fingers crossed, I do actually like, and not only on a physical level, but many others, as well. It is better doing it this way, imo, and that is speaking from a position of being able to compare. Jack
LOL The fact that you were able to maintain your celibacy and still find someone is amazing. Most women I meet get pissed off and feel insulted if a man turns down sex with them.
Yes they do! I went on a date with one women, she didn't do it for me. She missed her train on purpose, and when I did not invite her back, she was proper miffed, furious even. I got her a cab and everything, but you are right, they get really bent out of shape over it. They would criticise a man who reacted like that, then do it themselves!!!
What age? I am not so sure that it is age restricted, albeit as you get older, your priorities may shift. At least you hope!
Do you have a woman friend that you could sleep with in some mutually trusting relationship? I think that at 42 you have to protect your sexuality. Have a physician check your testosterone levels for a baseline..
I'm twenty-six. I probably won't be settling down for a while. I want a threesome with two hot chicks before that happens!
To be totally honest, that is one thing that never really appealed. I prefer one to one. Fair play to you though.
Indeed, as often as humanly possible, which generally is not often, but I think I am just a repressed man slut.
From fading into the past... I am just assuming that you would like to have an active sex life with a lady you love into your 60s..
Well I have never been called an angel, but for the past 32 years that I have been with my wife I have been a one women man. If I may quote Paul Newman " Why should I go out for a hamburger when I have a steak at home "
Sleeping around? Reminds me of this gal I knew several yrs ago who would always sleep w/a guy on their 1st date..... and never hear from him again. She 'loved' him, was crushed that he never came back, not even a good-bye call from him and would sob on mine and a mutual friends shoulders. I got sick of hearing it and she quit talking to me after I sarcastically suggested she keep her pants on until at least the 3rd date. She just couldn't get it into her head that some men are only interested in one nite flings.... Some women really are stupid when it comes to men........
Good gawd! What woman would want to sleep w/her male friend that she has nothing but a platonic friendship with? That's pretty sick .... well, in my world anyway...... Ugh!
I'm still not following. If people want to pretend to be better, wouldn't they talk about how often they get laid?
It happens a lot. I must admit, it would not really appeal to me. For me, the moment to sleep with the person, you can no longer go back to being the platonic mates that you were. F*** buddies, I think it is called. Not for me.
Depends on the person. Some like to pretend they are saintly. You should see the drugs threads. Anyway, it's not a big deal.
Crap. We are the same age. Anyway, during my single phases, I've been rather prolific. At one time between a long term relationship and my now wife, I was dating seven different women at once, and I can't say that any of them were good for much more than sexual flings. However, in my business group, I then met a very nice woman whom I dated and did not have sex with until 2 months into our relationship (I dropped all the others well before then) that moved very fast. We are now married and I am sure it will last. If I'm going to be with someone who will be my partner, then personality and compatibility are extremely important to me. I'm definitely a serial monogamist and I don't miss being single or the dating.
You're absolutely right - there's no going back to a friendship once you're intimate w/a friend. What a twisted attitude some people have ..."What's the big deal? It's only sex and why worry about who you're having it with?" Nothing seems to be sacred anymore..... Oh well ... to each their own.