It's a shame though. I know she would ideally like to make it into more, but i just cannot get into her, in that way. I love talking to her. Being around her. Doing stuff together. We understand each other. So much! But you cannot force that physical attraction. Shame.
I have to admit, it v much made my blood run cold. Have you even had a moment when you thought 'Did they just say that?'. That was how I felt. It was not just what she said, but how she said it, and the fact that she must have deemed it apt to then tell me.
OooooK! Well, hmmph! If the physical attraction isn't there, then you forget about it..... But then, on a personal note - after my divorce, I ended up w/a terrific guy whom I had known for 5 yrs.... a friend of my x and I. He was a good friend of ours - Tom & I played many games of cut-throat Scrabble in my kitchen while Danny snoozed in recliner in front of TV...... It was a good friendship that turned into a good love relationship later.... ya never know what life has in store for you.......
Well, Jack, just hang in there, buddy! You may wake up one of these mornings w/an entirely different attitude about this gal......... But from what you've said here, I would certainly keep her as a friend. It's just nice to have someone so compatible, who's a real friend .... you just can't buy that........
Oh, absolutely I will keep her as a friend, she is a great friend. I think so much of her, and she of me. No pretence on either side, no smoke and mirrors. As to this other girl that I started seeing about a month ago, or less - last night I brought it to an end. I have got myself into relationships before with girls with serious problems, ignored my instincts, and regretted it, in the end. I swore to myself that if faced with that situation again, I would cut my losses early, and I have, so I feel kinda good that I delivered on my own promise there. What's the expession - 'dodged a bullet'..? This type of person does not take rejection very well, I have since found. After ending it, I got up today, logged into FB, only to remember that she was still on my friends list. She sent me a message. Two things. She had done 'nothing wrong' (this devolution of responsibility is common among such types), then a big list of 'advice' for me. I was not going to mention how much what she had said to her son had spooked me out, but I ended up telling her, that the day she told me that she had grabbed her son, and said what she said, I found that disturbing. Her response? 'What I say to my son or anyone else IN A RAGE, it means f*** all'. I tend to disagree. I think the little boy may also disagree, and if these 'rages' are common, so might others, others more important and influential than myself. Jack
Wow .... "in a RAGE", huh? Stable parents don't go into a rage over whatever their kid does and certainly not when they're TODDLERS. That woman has some serious mental issues and it's best to cut all ties w/her. I just hope there's a relative or someone close to her who will keep an eye on that little guy.......... I'm sure you're right that she won't take rejection easily... that type wouldn't.... ever see the movie "Fatal Attraction"? Just a suggestion - have you ever tho't about finding someone on the internet, like eHarmony? I've heard/read about some successful stories - then some that weren't so successful. It all depends....... The funniest story I ever read took place in a small town, I think in France. Anyway this 40+ yr old woman was in a chat room and got interested in this guy and him w/her.....time goes by and they're getting hot and heavy w/each other in their postings. He asked for her pix and she found a pix of a pretty, sexy 21 yr old gal. Now about his sending a phony pix to her, don't remember - but finally they agreed to meet .....on the beach during the sunset. Has to be romantic, of course.... so they did. There they are, on the beach, beautiful sunset in the background. They're a little distance from each other and starts walking towards each other. Suddenly, the guy stops, stares at her and shouts "MOM?!!" She stares at him and shouts "JUNIOR?!" They were mother and son. I laughed so hard at that story, I ached....... Now if that wasn't bad enuf, the husband and father to this guy found out about it - in fact, the whole town heard about it - but he didn't leave her... Anyway, I'll never forget that story ..... Lol..... I still crack up over it..... Just a suggestion - there may be love on the internet for ya, Jack! LOL!.........
Liberals "save-every-problem-in-the-world" policies have left parents impotent. Kids have total control in the relationship, all they have to be is smart enough to figure it out. When you add the stress of being a single parent on top of it all, anyone is going to freak out. Hell, I know 2 parent families who try yelling anything at the kids to replace a swat on the butt, but after the age of realization that the threats are as powerless as the commands and rules, they serve zero purpose. Coddled kids become worthless adults, a major reason why our country is filled with them. I was raised by a single mom, and by my teenage years she simply gave up, and even though I took advantage of the fact like any sure as hell will, I can't blame her. The cheering for the destruction of the American family, on top of the state intruding into more places it doesn't belong, created the situation to which you describe. It is not an isolated incident, nor is it proof of a crazed "woman". If you care about this chick, you would help relieve the pressure. Fact is, I don't think your the type who should hook up with a single mother. I don't blame you for not wanting to, it is a hard choice. But for her and your own sake, save the judgment.
Totally agree with what you say about her choice of words. Onward and forward, is the way to go. Maybe once upon a time, because she did make a good initial impression on me, I would have hung in, only to regret doing so. However, I find such women emotionally draining, and the relationship tends to be ultimately defective, so I made a promise to myself that should I meet someone else, and began to get a bad vibe, I would just leave it at that. Um..I did meet her online. Funny story there, by the way, we should have a thread dedicated to such true (yet funny) events, such as that. Jack
To be honest, the fact that she was a single parent, for me, was neither here nor there. You are right, it was not an islolated incident, which is why I looked at the whole picture and felt that under a month into a relationship, it just was not worth the risk, for me. For me, her rage at a toddler, it was telling. But as I mentioned, there were many other aspects which set alarm bells ringing in my head. Watch this vid - it explains it better than I could hope to. She ticks ALL the boxes that this man speaks of. [ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZHKCbHGlS0"]Personality disorders of a dangerous woman - YouTube[/ame]
