We disagree in an interesting way and it looks that you are thinking of it too much This may be because of cultural gap so i will give you two clues : 1. I live in a city where there are hordes of single women for economic / social reasons and not enough men; so men are the conquest not women and i see no reason to reward her with a touch without no effort from her side. 2. Even the last man in the city had several encounters from angels from Eastern Europe and women know it , placing your hands on your date does make them feel you are treating them like whores. My message is : i am respecting you but prove you are worth my time .
Nah, you don't have to disregard it. You just have to assume everyone wants to be touched at all times We should also remember that there are cultural differences in play, so strategies aren't going to be universally optimal. Touching early, often, and confidently certainly works well in Australia (and, presumably, the rest of the English speaking world), but it might prompt nothing more than a cold shoulder in other cultures.
I hope you check they are single first, otherwise you might get a few black eyes from nearby Husbands/Boyfriends. Otherwise, totally sound advice.
Lol! Tomato / potato. You'd think so, but that's not really the case. Because this is all programmed into our species. Whereas cultures are just products of man. The same way somebody who doesn't speak your language still recognizes a smile as a universal sign of happiness and friendliness, this is kind of the same way. If you're really good, you can actually (*)(*)(*)(*) a girl that doesn't even speak your language. I've never done this. I'm not that good. But I know people who have. Irrelevant. Just be aware of your surroundings. Be on guard for flying fists. Girls don't care if they're with somebody. They think they do, but they don't. Prince Charming melts wedding rings right off of fingers. It's funny to see a guy come over and pee on his territory, though. I get that one every now and then. If you're talking to his girl and she seems a little too into you, he'll come over and put his arm around her and try to act all cool - like "this one's mine." And it actually makes him look worse because now he looks insecure. Only if you do it wrong. Women want to feel sexually desired. But they don't want to feel cheap. You have to know the difference in how to touch them. It doesn't sound like the people in your part of the world are very good with women. I noticed you didn't answer my question. Have you ever had a one night stand?
Dude, post an ad on Craigslist, title: "Where's the Happy" List a couple of things you really like to do, hike, bike, walk on the beach, glass of wine by the fire, but stuff you really like to do. Read the replies, if one interests you start communicating. I have met the finest women I have known using that ad.
First of all its not rejection, its them losing out. Second, its all about self confidence. Not being what anyone thinks you should be or need to be, but be comfortable in your own skin.
I believe in honesty as a form of respect toward fellow human beings I am willing to call friends. So, I just tell them to fornicate me into relationships and call dibs if they want a relationship out of me when I am ready to put out a relationship.
Well, considering that you can be rejected for fashion or fat, it does pay to fear it at least a little. But I'd say use that to fix what needs fixing. For me, that applies mostly to the fat; if a girl doesn't like how I dress, well, she'd only be annoyed at me for that for as long as it takes for the relationship to fail, right? But fat can be reduced, and to me it makes a big difference, whether it's on me or someone else.. I have a history of being both shy and overly desperate, such that anyone I would talk to would be scared off quickly enough. I can hardly comment on being successful at dating, since I've not done a whole lot of it, and have never gotten much out of it to date. I'm thinking that if one can get past that state of being shy and desperate, which seems to stem from low self-esteem and failing to find oneself, one can and will then develop confidence. It's also important to stop thinking you need another person. Be your own man (or woman!) first and foremost. Again, find yourself. Don't seek dependence on other people. You will never be happy that way.. You'll also be in a position to end up used and abused by someone prone to behaving that way, and you'll likely have a hard time recognising the problem and getting out of that situation. Once you've gotten beyond that nonsense (I find that simply being financially and otherwise independent for a while is a great way to manage it), you can then feel ready for dating. I feel like I'm saying the same basic thing a hundred ways here, so I'll leave it at this.
The minute you allow the thought of rejection, you have already lost. The dating thing...Think of something you really really would enjoy doing and take her along. If she doesn't want to go then write her off. If she goes and ruins your good time.....You guessed it....Write her off. However, if she goes and has a great time, you, my friend, will get laid. Just a suggestion....Hope you work it out.
In my case, I have learned to appreciate Man's invention of money and the Institution of money based markets we call Capitalism. I can claim I am working on my attitude and character by having a moral of respect for Tradition involving capitalism.
To the OP 1. Try online dating, one of the free sites. It will get you talking and meeting people. You get better at talking to women with practice. 2. Ignore Unifer's rule 2. Let us call this Rule 3: A woman will let you know if she is interested physically. Watch the body language. However if by date 3 you are NOT getting any vibes, it is time to move on. By date 3 you should have at least kissed. There is some truth to the stereotype of sex on the third date. I would just say that something needs to have happened by the third date not just sex. I am not going to be so arrogant to say my "rule 3" is always right . But I have found it to be right in my own experiences. Have fun, let us know how it goes.
I love modern women in modern times, especially when they inbox me with cute pics of cute chics, just being themselves.
my thoughts on rejection is this:it is inevitable and it isn't always a bad thing. the thing about rejection is that many people take it too personally. i know, that is an easy thing to do. i agree. but being turned down or rejected by someone just means you should just move on, not give up on dating all together. if you think about it realistically rejection is a positive thing. if no one rejected anyone then people would be together just so they wouldn't hurt anyone's feelings....that would suck. i don't want to be with someone i don't want to be with and i don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. i deserve better and so do other people.
