For sure. I am just thinking that in most situations in which two people introduce another, you tend to find one wants it more than the other, and is the one to push for it. That, to me, has the potential to turn into a problem. Also, there is the small matter of sharing your wife with someone else. Doesn't that just feel so odd to you?
Other way around. Same applies. Like I say, each to their own. I'd just find it somewhat odd if my wife wanted to share me with one of her friends, or whatever. *shrugs*
Not really because I have never had the pleasure of doing that. As far as I know that thought has never crossed my wifes mind nor mine either. But like I said earlier, if we did that would be our business and not anyone elses. As two consenting adults whatever we do is strictly our business.
I never found that to be true. If it is made clear to the woman that it isn't sex you are after, but rather, love.
Okay, but you are only human, Would it not make you feel natural jealousy, if not at the moment, then after? What if she began to really like him, and saw him while you were not there? Dangerous ground, unless of course the relationship is mostly about the sex.
Why would I be jealous? I wouldn't mind her being with the other person without me there. (Though she hasn't.)
I decieded to find out just what my wife thought about this. I bought up the subject last night at dinner. The first thing she did was break out laughinhg and said, now just who in their right mind would want to have anything to do with these old bodies of ours. I asked her about our younger days then. After a few seconds of thought she told me that for a moment or two that the thought had entered her mind. She then said that just what did god give us eyes for if not to look, and a brain if not to think. And like most folks she had wondered what it would have been like. But she then told me that there was really no need to do that as she had always been satisfied with things the way they were and that she didn't see any need to go and upset the apple cart. To which I added the phase by Paul Newman. Why should I go out for a hamburger when I have a steak at home. Would it have made me jealous, I really don't know. If she really began to like him and saw him when I was not there, then there would have been a problem. But since none of this has ever happened All I can say is that we had a lot of fun just talking about it and thinking about it.
Having safe sex is one thing but the risks some folk take for a bit of pleasure is another. Unwanted pregnancies and STD's are often the result of giving in to urges. Whatever happened to 'Love'? Now it's sex, sex, sex.
Do you think you really love this person? It doesn't sound to me that you maybe value each other, it sounds like you are playing with fire. Maybe that is the attraction, and she would be bored otherwise?
We have been married 15+ years. I love her. Why would my not objecting to her being with her friend make a difference?
Of course, I don't know, but after reading your posts about your wife, I would guess you would have been very jealous, very hurt and very angry.... those emotions just goes w/the territory when you're w/someone whom you love and you wouldn't want to share her w/someone else... well, that's the way I've always felt about it and will never change my mind.....
People need to stop confusing love and sex. It doesn't bother me when my partner watches porn or masturbates, so why would it bother me if he slept with someone else?
So much of having a woman is a hassle, I think most of us think being the only one who gets to "have" her is the reward. If others guy are getting the same treatment, more often than not better, while we put up with her BS and pay bills....well..what am I saying..I'm not that guy anyway. Thank you "good guys" for being "that guy".
If someone gives you "BS" and you're "paying her bills" it sounds like you're in a bad relationship. I would suggest getting better taste and meeting better women (on the other hand, not all men can date quality women so they have to put up with garbage, but that's a different topic).
"Quality" women are religious, and only date religious men. For the rest of us, you either the guy she is cheating on, or with.
Guess we have different definitions of quality. That's the great thing about an open relationship, there's no such thing as cheating! I wish you luck in your future relationships, but I have to say when someone thinks there's something "wrong" with ALL men or women they're wrong. That someone is usually the problem. But people would rather say "ALL MEN/WOMEN SUCK" rather than "Hey, maybe I'M doing something wrong".
WHUT .... are you talking about?! "Religion" has nothing to do w/quality. "Quality" women are those who are monogamous, they do have morals and believe in commitments....... even atheist women can have these qualities.
LOL. Well, there is no point in arguing. I figured the anonymity of the internet would allow freedom from political correctness. Apparently, some truths are still too sensitive a subject. I'll admit some religious men and women would still cheat, but the majority of non-religious men and women would. Some have higher standards than others, and maybe have not met someone yet they perceive to be better than the person they are already with. The majority of women I know want financial security, affection, a social life, and great sex. Very few men, if any, can pull off all of the above. Whether they admit it or not, women need more than one man to truly be happy. Far more so than men need multiple lovers. Women are far more complicated creatures, and have all kinds of different levels to satisfy to feel whole and fulfilled. Some might just settle for a couple being filled, and choose to be monogamous because of ingrained social dogma, but anyone who cares to notice will see something missing in her soul with one look in her eyes.
