So I have a girlfriend now...

Errr are you guys like 16 or something? If she is a grown woman and scared of her parents that's not a good thing at all.

Tread carefully and don get too attached because she might just bolt. Sorry man but that's just my opinion.

Lastly don't pester a guy for his girls number, that just sounds weird lol. But try to just talk to him to see if he can arrange it.

And no dating was never like this for me.

 

Kranes is 16.

 

Oooohhhhh ok that does make more sense then.

 

Dating a barrel of fun.

My negative/pessimistic/typical mindset induced questions in this situation would be:
a. Is it worth it? Are the hoops worth it?
b. Are the hoops manageable?
c. Is there someone else I could have a good time with that wouldn't require such hoops?

I ask these things because in my negative/pessimistic/typical mindset I realize the probability of it working out are slim. The odds of her breaking up with me with her (*)(*)(*)(*) face persuient ex standing outside of my car are much higher. As are the odds of being used as a ride to get to places. So I guess if I am the one doing all of the foot work and making all of the effort, or if the person is ruled by other people, I don't typically have much interest in pursuing the relationship.

If two people care for each other, it shouldn't be complicated, and they shouldn't be ruled by other people.

Either she has the mind to be with you or she doesn't.

If she is concerned about other people, her mind isn't there.

Been there and done that, yo.

 

This appears to get a bit more complicated, around this time I decided to climb through the bedroom window at midnight. Just be sure the father isn't a gun owner before arranging this with your girlfriend.

its a good way to gauge the relationship, the higher up the stronger the commitment...

 

Uhhh...don't shoot her in the bathroom through the door.

 

I'm 17, she's 16.

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She wants to be with me, it's just her parents she's worried about.

 

Is it wrong for a mostly nice to guy believe that the women that are doing him the most, are the most serious about a serious relationship in modern times?

 

Then she should address it with her parents, with that you can determine how easy/difficult it will be.

 

Its a nice thought, however in my experience, it doesn't mean much.

It go as far as it goes. Lasts for as long as it lasts.

The question to ask yourself is, is the high worth the withdrawls?

 

I am trying not to stereotype in modern times. Only the women who are doing me the most have dibs on any serious relationships in modern times.

 

Oh my GAWD Kranes don't even THINK about going through the the window of the daughter of the father who probably does have a gun!!!!

 

Possibly. Or you have some material good they want/need.

 

If I did, I may not have my current requirement that only the free chics that are doing me the most for free, have dibs on any free, serious relationship in modern times.

 

Of course not. It would ruin my pants. I'll just open the backdoor.

 

You are young if I remember correctly, and so you are limited in what you can do correct? You live in New York as well? If you were over 21 a bottle of wine and central park, or the same and a movie on Netflix would be good. If you are under 21 and still drink, the latter would still work.

I would also say, take all the advice here with a grain of salt. What you will learn over the next few years of your life, is that for every woman who loves gifts, attention, and emotional availability there is a woman who likes emotionally stunted and unavailable men, who give little attention and/or gifts. I know some of those women myself. Perfectly lovely people as well. Good friends of mine, however they are always chasing after unavailable men who are unkind to them.

PS. They are very smart women too. The world is just full of females of all kinds. You need to be aware of what each individual person you are with at that time wants and likes. The hard to read ones can be the most fun, but they sometimes make life difficult!!

 

I am starting to insist chics, at least claim to be willing to be girls and friends at the same time, before I put out even a short term relationship.

 

If money being tight right now means anything to her, move on.

 

modern chics in modern times, gotta love'm

 

You want to be friends with people you dont respect?

 

Why shouldn't i respect women i am willing to be friends with?