Women need to put their husbands before their kids.

Too many divorces I know of happened after the kid was born. Mostly because the mother forgot she was a wife and focused all of her attention on her child.

Ultimately, a man's logic goes like this: "My wife knew me before our kid, and I should come first." Husbands still tend to put their wives before their kids, but women don't.

If you put your kids first, you forget they eventually grow up and become their own people. You can't expect your partner to wait years on the back burner until you're 'ready' to give them attention.

Most men who cheat on their wives do so because their partner gets lazy and comfy in the relationship. Kids are wonderful, but putting them before your husband/wife is unnatural and horrible for the marriage.

 

OK well this is opinion rather than fact.

Personally I think anyone has the capacity to become lazy and inattentive within a relationship. For those people chances are they made the wrong decision to begin with. I mean honestly the amount of people who struggle to answer some basic questions such as:

Why are you together?

The trick to making this question super awkward is to ask them to divulge all the the issues they have in the relationship. They will reveal all their partners faults and shortcomings. Then when called upon to explain why they are together they will do two things:

1. Contradict everything they said about their partner when they were complaining.

2. Try and make out that the points they made when complaining were not apparent when they first got together 'he seemed like a nice guy'.

Almost always if you dig deep enough it's not that anyone seemed nice and then changed. It's that you excused certain behaviour in the immediate and then grew tired of it in the long term. Once you pin people down on this they get super defensive and usually emotional.

The ultimate truth is that people will do anything rather than accept responsibility for the failures in their life.

Why are you divorced three times Jim?

Oh... it's those bitches!

Why are you on your third nameless baby daddy Sarah?

It's all those bastards out there pretending to be nice!

OK -- nothing to see here. lol!

 

Self-centered men need to put their kids before themselves ... fixed this thread for you. You’re welcome.

 

It takes a team of two, and an authoritative team at that, to properly raise a child.

 

I don't disagree with you on this.
I also think mothers need to put their husbands before their kids.

 

Men in general should evaluate their own egos on this and act like "Men".

 

So the male feels he's a victim of his children... vying for equal affection/attention from his wife?

 

why...to mother the husband?

 

no, to wifey the husband

 

You're assuming a 50's view of life?

 

where the **** do you get such insane ideas?

you will never be in a healthy, committed relationship until you fix this crap.

 

What this says is daddy is jealous he isn’t mommys favorite baby. Maybe daddy should put his kids before himself

 

No, Daddy is selfish and wants sex,
Mommy is tired from way too much work and drudgery, and wants to rest.

 

Or maybe daddy is a dud in bed

 

No both parents have to put their kids before each other, but most of the time putting kids second is actually about putting them first. No kid should feel 'entitled' to be number one, and they need to see themselves as part of something much bigger than themselves.

 

Children correct ?
Young, immature, selfish, your normal every day children, and yet you expect them to be Adults ?

 

You don't put your husband before your child. There can be a problem with people not adjusting well to having kids, but it both parents' fault, not just the woman.

 

No. Try again.

 

I think you forgot a basic principle....adult people are adults and children aren't....they need to be cared for and if Daddy wants to act like a child who doesn't get enough attention, is jealous of his own children, then he is better off divorced since no women or children should have to put up with such a weak, insecure ass.

 

bravo!!!!

 

You are the one that need try again.

Children are not adults and act like Children.

 

children are the most important responsibility for any parent.

their needs, their growth, their development, is more important than anything else.

if hubby can't handle that, than hubby needs to check himself.

 

Except I never used the phrase 'act like adults' in my post. You decided to shove them down my throat. So you might try asking POLITELY what I meant, rather than guess wrong and claim I have a problem. I will give you a hint. My post describes a long process of education and learning and a goal for raising a mature young man or woman that takes a lot of years. Its not like I haven't parented kids into adulthood. Now try again.

 

Shouldnt both parents put the kids first?

The relationship you're describing focusses on emotional codependence, a dynamic that has largely been viewed as mental illness until quite recently.

 

kids should be the number 1 priority, especially at a young age.

i dont the understand OP at all.

a strong country has good parents that take good care of their kids.