Would you date a Transgender?

No , i hate male ankles and the first thing i look on a woman it's her shoes.

 

Hahaha so true!

I HATE big thick ankles on a woman.

No for me as well

 

i dont have any issues with TG's but i couldn't, an issue with me not them...although the one that ran for miss canada was a hottie...

 

I feel attraction. But it's not to what they look like. It's about their character. And it's funny, I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about boobs, saying I would prefer bigger ones. I told her no, because then if I motorboated them, then I would just get slapped around by them.

 

I don't mean attraction like love of the attraction to peope, but the attraction to body parts. Do you get 'turned on' by anything? If not, I would say that's very sad and that you're missing something very beautiful. Also, if you are free to look at boobs without the attraction shades on, do tell me: are they still beautiful or are they just wierd fat lumps?

 

I feel attraction to a body, but I don't care about it. It's not the basis for a relationship for me, because it means to me that we'll eventually have sex. I see boobs as what they are, just parts of the female body, that help to compliment a women's overall beauty.

 

Everybody who pushes LGBT rights and says no to dating a transgendered person is both a hypocrite and a homophobe because they clearly don’t see that person as the gender they claim to be but only as their birth gender.

It seems to be rare that I agree with you, but this would appear to be one of those times. To accept the premise that one's gender is merely what one feels - regardless of one's physical makeup - is to open a pandora's box of other things that are now just as logical to consider. Such as race, age, and species. If a biologically white person believes they were born the wrong race and goes through cosmetic surgery to darken their skin, are they now entitled to affirmative action benefits? We've all heard the phrase that you're only as old as you feel. If a 50 year old man feels like he's 16, should it still be illegal for him to sleep with a 16 year old girl? We all know that people mature at different rates. So if a 12 year old believes he is 21, should he be allowed to purchase alcohol? If a man believes he was born the wrong species, can he run around naked on all fours in public and crap freely in the park as long as someone has him on a leash and cleans up after him? Where does it end? There is no logical reason to draw the line specifically at gender. All other possibilities must also be considered.

 

I would go so far to call them hypocrites or homophobes, but you have a point. There seems to be some kind of insecurity. Why is it of any concern if a person wants to have kids? Dating doesn't necessarily lead to having kids with each other, and some born females are incapable of giving birth, too.
I think the third option is irrelevant. Either you have a problem with dating a transgendered person or not.
That's why I voted yes.

Doesn't compare, 50 year olds have a different legal status and responsibilities than 12 or 16 year olds, no matter what sex they are. I am allowed to eat like a pig, but not to crap in the streets like one.
Men and woman have, or at least should have, equal rights, so these concern shouldn't apply.

 

Same. If I didn't want kids, I wouldn't ever have married.

 

Ah, but that's exactly the problem. Who determines who is really 50 years old and who is really 12 or 16? Why should that be based any more on physical criteria than gender?

 

They could be a pre-op, female "transgendered" person "living as a man".

What's stopping your wife from claiming she is a transgender person? If she did claim that, couldn't you still impregnate her?

 

Technically, yes, but if my wife said she was transgender and wanted to be a man, I would probably divorce her. When you marry someone, you marry them as they are, not what they might become down the line. I'd try to deal with it, but that sort of change during marriage would be too much of a shock.

 

But if she was still a female, you could still impregnate her, so why couldn't you learn to love the person she was becoming? Wouldn't her change be largely superficial, anyway? Like wearing a shorter haircut and such? Just imagine her as the same person except she feels like a man and perhaps dresses like one.

 

I'd still respect her identity, but I'm simply not attracted to masculinity, so I probably wouldn't stay with her. Some shorter haircuts can be beautiful and feminine, but dressing too much like a man would turn me off.

Gender expression may be superficial, but people do need to be upfront about who they are before they commit to marriage. Hiding a secret like that can destroy a marriage and the trust that their spouse had.

That being said, I wish I could change my answer in the poll to the third option, because I wouldn't have a problem dating a Transwoman as long as she was upfront about it and I was attracted to her. But changing sex in the middle of a marriage is completely different.

 

Okay, and that is my point, that "transgender" is really just a psychological construct. I could convince myself that I was a woman for a day, say, if I had to play a part in a play. I would still retain my biological designation as a male and I could even dress and act as myself after I was done acting but, technically, I would be "transgender" while I was acting as a woman in the play. This is why I think we should just do away with the whole notion of "transgender" simply because it is so subjective. Dressing "like a man" is just a cultural construct. The southern dandy would be considered effeminate by today's standards, for instance. Fixating on those superficial displays does not lend itself to logical classifications. We should be male or female, period. That is objective. People who hate their physical body are mentally ill, not "transgender".

 

I agree somewhat. But what about a guy who feels very feminine and wears women's clothes, but doesn't try to pass as a woman or cut their genitals off? Something like this: http://instagram.com/p/b6L6GvSooE/

I wouldn't say people like that are mentally ill. They're just different.

 

Finally the voice of reason!

 

See, "feminine" and "women's clothing" are just abstract social constructs, like "transgender". I don't think they're that important in a medical context. As long as the person is comfortable with their own biological makeup, then they are probably mentally stable. The "mental illness" comes in when the individual fixates on their physical appearance. Certainly, some concern for physical appearance is healthy and natural, but fixation and self-loathing is indicative of unresolved mental trauma, and should NOT be treated with "hormone therapy" or surgical alterations to the genitalia. Basically, my point is that "male" and "female" are not matters of opinion. That is determined genetically. Your physical appearance and configuration is determined genetically. Believing that you are a male when your chromosomal configuration is XX is just inaccurate. It's not a matter of what clothes you wear or how you fix your hair. Those things are totally superficial and irrelevant to biological designations of sex.

 

That's why gender and gender idenitity are two things.

 

one is truth and the other is a fantasy.

 

I said no but I don't judge.

I have seen some trans that are way more feminine than some of the girls I have dated, and who are absolutely delicate and beautiful.

Nothing more gay in it than masturbation. Which we all do.

I have nothing against anyone finding companionship and happiness.

 

I think by gender you mean biological sex. But you cannot change gender either, which is why transgendered people try to change what they can--their physical appearance.

 

It's been said that most women are equal in length with a few having a slightly longer index finger.

It's interesting, because my index and ring fingers match completely and resemble the female ratio. I've always figured that this might explain my general lack of masculinity as well as an atypical gender identity throughout my childhood up to the present.

 

One is what you are, and the other is what you feel.

 

No.

The Mayor doesn't date people who refuse to have their mental illnesses treated.