Decisions_Are_Mine

D. I have gained custody of my son for almost the same reasons as you. I was lucky enough to have an ex that saw my situation was the better and acquiesced without a fight. But I was prepared. You are doing the right thing, first off. And the best possible answer is that your son is more important to you than anything else. Your motivations for all of your actions are about how it will affect him. You understand the importance of a safe, healthy and stable home. When you are asked about his mother don't be angry and don’t attack her. Be hurt for your son. Imagine your own pain if your mother was like that, you are there to protect your son from that pain. Talk about how her decisions are wrong or that you disagree with them. Her priorities are not set to the best interest of your son’s upbringing. If she cries or makes any outbursts, be quiet and passive. Let her go on for a few seconds and explain that you are not there to hurt or embarrass anyone but you need to fight for your sons well-being.
Good luck
Nathan (colourislast)