What exactly are you upset about? You doubted she was pregnant- but never doubted she had an abortion? You are against abortion- but also don't want kids. Did you ever tell your wife that if she was pregnant, that you wanted the child? Did you ever tell your wife that if she was pregnant that you would support the child if she didn't want to? Because I have been there guy- and thats what I did.
It was never yours in the first place. Nobody owns another person, far less the possibility of another.
do you mean that all contraception and abortion services (since this is what you identified PP as providing) is eugenics? you should try telling that to all people who choose to use contraception.