Vote: is prostitution acceptable or unacceptable?

Personally, this is something I am rather ambivilant about. I realize that you will never stop it. ANd when you look at it, what is a "prostitute"?

Is a gal who puts out to a boyfriend for a roof over her head and some spending money a prostitute? How about a "Trophy Wife" or "Trophy Husband"? Sure, they only have 1 client, but quite often these are also purely monetary arrangements.

And is going out on a date, where one person pays for dinner, dancing, and a movie in exchange for a night of whhpie a prostitue? Or if they buy something like a gold necklace? What about a porn actor or actress? They are paid for sex, are they not? I mean legally, what is stopping me from picking up a hooker, setting up a camera and filming it, and if they try to bust me just say I am making an amateur porn movie?

However, I do believe it should be regulated. Maybe following the example of Nevada. Have it outside the city limits, regulated and monitored to keep the organized crime out of it, with mandatory drug and health screenings. This would keep the criminal activity largely out, and at least make sure that it is done responsibly.

 

It's a little more complicated than that... I've known plenty of macho guys that get used.

I don't think it has as much to do with your own actions as it does who you choose to be with. Judging a person's character accurately is a very important skill to have.

 

Sorry to hear that, but I'm thinking that maybe you look for the wrong things in a woman. Either that, or you're doing something that leads to the cheating.

I understand you might be stuck in a rut right now, but if you look at the world in this way, you're not likely to attract a reliable woman.

 

I think the problem is us, men, in general. Women have a multitude of things they look for in men. Men just want sex. Sure, we'll list off eyes, face, legs, etc., but it all revolves around sexual attraction. Therefore, women just have to bring a vagina to the deal, and they all have one. This is why "notches in the belt" are so important to young men. Not because relationships are less valid in the eyes of men, but more. A woman just has to show up. Getting a man is not a challenge for most young women. As easy as picking up a pencil in front of him. In the scheme of things, prostitution being legalized is the easy route. The thing that will change all the complaints modern men have with modern women is expecting more from them as to who they are. How nice they are. How giving they are. How funny they are. How romantic they are. How much money they make. The day when a woman bats her eyes and the guy's reply is, "yeah, yeah, your good looking..what else you got?" That is the day everything changes. But to change this is to change the nature of man, and good luck.

I'm actually not stuck in a rut, I got a cool one as we speak. I just remember the 2 decades it took to find her, and I've never been the type to believe the world is perfect when I'm happy and the world is evil when I'm not. Finding one good one doesn't change the reality of the 50 shysty ones that came before her.

 

Well, I'm glad you found the right one, and while I did spend some time following lust over love, I definitely look for more than just physical attraction in a woman.

I think what a man looks for is entirely dependent on his:

1) IQ and perception

2) experience

Younger guys tend to go for the lust thing most. Dumb guys do too. A lot of guys even find intelligence intimidating in a woman, but that's kind of sad.

Smart and experienced guys look for more than just the hot body or pretty face. If a girl has those in addition to intelligence and personality, that's always a plus, but beauty fades with age.

Personality and intelligence are more permanent in nature, although age can affect those too.

 

You comments have been right on the mark (IMO) for the most part.

You mentioned the "wussy" factor a few posts ago and I think this needs clarification. Men generally do not understand what a woman means by "Wussy" and they confuse "not being a wussy" with being macho or controlling.

Women do not respect men who "do not have a spine". Many of the real Macho types are wussbags.

If you find yourself putting your wife or GF on a pedestal "overly so" .. you could be a wussbag
If you find yourself agreeing with everything she says .. you are a wussbag (If you disagree with everything you are probably stupid .. you are either obstinant or you two are not made for each other so you should have bolted long ago)

If you find yourself not doing things you enjoy, or altering your identity too much .. you could be a wussbag. (This does not mean that you do not change ... every relationship requires some compromise .. but if it is too much and you find yourself losing your identity .. Wussy)

If you find yourself panting after her every whim like a puppy dog .... Get a spine and some self respect Wussy

If you feel the need to be with her every waking moment and do everything together .. Get a life .. you could be a wussy

If you feel you have to control her and are worried about what she is doing when she is not with you .. Get some therapy ( Unless you want to continue torturing yourself by making up stories about what she might be doing when she is out of sight .. If she cant be trusted why are you with her still ... wussy)

There are many more things but these are at least a few that may help some of the fellows lose their wussy ways.