What would #metoo for men look like?

More importantly, those fantasies never involve men like pic three, above.

 

Im not one to throw around accusations of 'shallow.' I believe everyone is entitled to be attracted to w/e or not. But to feel that a certain type is 'beneath you' instead of simply saying you're not attracted to it is pretty elitist. Ill respect your right to feel that way, but I dont find it to be respectful.

Also, I dont see a problem with folks 'dreaming big' or 'going for the gold'. Im not unattractive myself, but I would never look down upon someone trying to attract me from 'outside their (my) league', even if they dont have a chance in hell. I guess I just respect folks with (metaphorical) balls.

You say 'gets away with flirting with you' like flirting is a bad thing... why?

 

First, yes it is shallow, but it's a primitive imperative. Women are programmed to seek male fitness. We can't help it.

Secondly, we are in the driver's seat. We're usually the ones who decide whether or not sex will happen, so we effectively get to pick and choose. Under those conditions, unwanted advances are not just unwanted, they're actually insulting. It suggests to us (rightly or wrongly) that we're HIS level, not the level we believe ourselves to be. That isn't the case most of the time, and we're simply dealing with sleezy old misogynists, but the message it sends is unwelcome. We really can't respect a man who thinks so little of females that he imagines his wildly inappropriate contact will be acceptable.

Finally, most men are okay with ugly chicks trying it on. Men are men. All attention is good attention, since jungle lore says you never know where your next meal will come from. Women are rarely in that position.

I say 'get away with it' because I'm married. And also because I am not especially receptive to male attention, having spent too much time and discomfort on blocking same during my adult life. It takes an extraordinarily beautiful and physically outstanding male to turn my head these days, much less compel me to placidly accept his attentions. I just don't need it or want it. Besides, I've always dated model types (not actual models, but as a looks standard), so it's not novel, even at 50+. Now it's just the older version, as per pic 2.

 

Well at least you're conscious of your double standards. That doesnt make them admirable... but it does make you honest, which is admirable.

 

Of course there’s a double standard...in som many ways