Would you consider Sex Before Marriage is morally wrong?

LOL - nice response. Ironically I have more respect for both women and cars than many men in America have for women. I wouldn't beat up either and the statistics on men assaulting their wives or girlfriends speaks volumns about their disrespect for women.

http://www.dvrc-or.org/domestic/violence/resources/C61/

With up to 3 million women that are physically abused by their husband or boyfriend each year it would indicate that they treat women with less respect than they would the Model J Duesenberg that I've shown. I seriously doubt they would beat up a car like that.

 

You mean you have more respect for cars than woman... Beating woman up is beyond disrespectful, it is detestable.

It is no surprise since people jump into bed so easily now,breaking down the respect that used to exist.

Morals lay to waste with all this test driving. Even the owner of his new car doesn't want 3000 miles on it. lol

 

Apparently there was a reading comprehension problem as that was not what I stated. Perhaps rereading the post would help.

Has anyone noticed that even a "new car" is "used" as the manufacturer and dealer typically put miles on it. If anyone doubts this go to a new car dealer and check out the odometer on the new cars they have for sale.

I'm not saying a person should be "worn out" but a few good "miles" makes a lot of sense.

 

I did read the whole thing and understand, I just didn't quote the whole thing. Sorry for the confusion.

You were comparing your respect level to that of those that physically abuse woman but I wouldn't call beating a woman disrespectful but rather a hate crime. Are you really setting the bar for yourself that high ?

Yes, this isn't a break in though, it is generally to get the cars from the truck to the lot.

All depends on what kind of person it is. ... and 3 thousand miles isn't considered "worn out" but just not to be desired.

 

You are entirely right! And. . .this coming from a 61 year old woman, married for 40 years to the same man!

I have ABSOLUTELY no regret about having had sex with my husband prior to accepting his marriage proposal! In fact, I'm not sure he would have proposed if we had not already know that we were good for each other, both mentally AND physically!

 

That's silly!
It is not because you have sex with a person you believe may be "the one" that you don't take precautions to prevent STD's and (especially) pregnancies!

The idea that my husband had "known" women before me NEVER nagged at my mind! I knew he did. . .and I was GLAD he learned enough to make our time together "productive" and sexy!

And, when we finally decided to have a child (2 years after we married), it was a very thoughfull decision, and we NEVER regretted it!

By the way. . .although I have knowledge of STD's, I NEVER had to personally experience one. . .not before, and not after my marriage!

 

That's were love comes in the picture!

Do you think it is better to get married first, then wonder if another person would have been better? Is that what happen to the over 50% of marriage that end up in divorce?

Good sex doesn't make a marriage, but it sure helps to keep it alive, at least until more emotional/intellectual forms of intimacy become stronger and more important!

And. . .after 40 years of marriage, it is obvous that intellectual and emotional intimacy are even MORE important than sex. . .as are comfort and trust.

 

Having sex with her after she's married is okay then?

 

Funny!

I guess for some people. . .it's not alright to have sex before the official wedding. . .but after that. . .it can become a "free for all!"

But. . . I wouldn't recommend it! The only thing better than good sex in a relationship, is emotional and intellectual intimacy. . .the three go together to make a REAL lasting marriage. . .if one is missing. . .You're in trouble!

 

Thank you counselor... now I'm going to screw that married chick.

 

What if love came the first time ?

 

I'm not suggesting no sex before marriage, I'm suggesting monogamy over promiscuity.

 

Well, it's none of my business!

And if she is okay with it. . . that means she is not "very" married!

Probably missing one or two of the "intimacy categories" with her husband!

Good luck!

 

Did you read what I replied to ? My answer was not silly.

Promiscuity vs. monogamy ..

Promiscuity = A lot of stds spread. Unwanted pregnancies.

 

I agree with that! Once you find the right one, there is no reason (although the temptation may still exist at times) to look any further. . .

I do NOT believe in promiscuity. I think promiscuity and "affairs" during what should be a monogamist relationship (married or not!) are the results of a poor match. In that case, why continue the relationship?

 

Most of my girlfriends have been married (including my wife)... I guess that says something about me.

 

Once you find the right one ? Tell me then, if you fall in love with someone, should you indeed trash that relationship by default because it is your first love ?

 

No. . . absolutely not.

The question is not whether you should ALWAYS have sex before getting married, but whether it is immoral to have sex before you get married.

My answer is . . .NO it is not immoral. . .it is in fact pretty smart!

And you certainly shouldn't get married with someone just because you had sex with that person!

And you should certainly not feel what you think is true love for someone, but delay having sex with that person until you get the "legal paper" in your hand!

If you find someone you really believe you love, and that person feels the same way. . .why make the decision to delay knowing that person as much as possible (including sexually) until you get "papers!"

Extremes are NEVER rational! Did you really misunderstand my position. . .or are you trolling?

 

Marriage is wrong.

Sex before or after, or even during the ceremony, it is neither here nor there.

 

No I'm not Trolling, I'm genuinely asking you questions and I don't believe I misunderstood you either.

You said "Let's say that if he had been my first and only, I would have for ever wondered!"

How am I to interpret that ? That implies that you should advise me that I should dump my first love so that I won't wonder what others are like my whole life.

 

Those who are attending the Marriage ceremony, should refrain from having sex immediately prior to, or during the ceremony. Only afterwards, when the vows have been exchanged, ring given, and champagne is flowing, should promiscous sex be encouraged.

 

It is important that the bridesmaids should have satisfying sex with the bride.

Assisted, if necessary, by electrical devices.

 

No, dear. . .first of all, I would NEVER be that arrogant as to believ that I should advise ANYONE, but especially NOT a perfect stranger!

I base my posts on my own personal experience. You can take them or leave them. . .it is a moot point for me. I express OPINIONS that are personal, that are grounded in MY OWN experience, and in my background in psychology and social work.

I know for sure that, after I had my first sexual experience, I KNEW it wouldn't be the last. But after a few months of knowing my future husband, I also knew that I would be satisfied . . . probably (not surely. . .but at least probably) to be in a monogamous relationship with HIM for the rest of my life (or at least. . .for the last 40 years!

ALL I know for sure is that having sex before marriage is NOT immoral. . .especially not if loving feelings are involved.

 

Thank you Sadanie, I can tell you are a nice honest person.. Peace to you.

 

Sexual intercourse is funamentally no different that intellectual intercourse or emotional intercourse. We can have good intellectual intercourse with others, such as are often shared here, or we can have bad intellectual intercourse, such as we also see here. We can have good emotional intercourse when we share mutually share good emotional feelings with someone or bad emotional intercourse when we share a mutual dislike with someone. By the same token we can have good sexual intercourse and bad sexual intercourse (I'll skip the details LOL).

If there is any considerations related to morality it would have to be if it's good then it's moral and if it's bad then it's immoral. Good sex is never immoral.