When I see a tattoo on a pretty girl...

Yes, I'm sure some people get them for attention. I'm sure people get them for all kinds of reasons, but so what? That doesn't mean everyone else HAS to like them. Some people are not going to like a tattooed body. Such is life.

 

I don't see how paying hundreds of dollars for someone to put a picture on your body is really "walking your own path" anyways.

 

To each their own, I suppose. I see tattoos as trashy and I agree with other posters that, if anything, it makes me think she is a conformist who does not walk her own way.

Tattoos are only nice when you can't see them imo.

 

Lots of meth heads have tattoos. They are sure walking in their own path, walking in their own way, and probably falling down too.

 

Yes! That is exactly the kind of impression I get when I see a full-sleeve tattoo on a girl.

Full sleeve= Crack addict
Wrist tattoo/smaller tattoos= "Look at me, I am unique!"
Tattos below the belt= Slut

I recently saw a girl working in a clothing store who had several tattoos spread over her arm and it was just awful. It was not like she was ugly or anything and needed attention brought elsewhere. Actually the tattoos kind of made her uglier than she was.

Anyways, worst thing I ever seen was a policeman with a big tattoo on his arm. He looked like one of the guys he is supposed to protect us from.

 

I mentioned neither bed nor sex so your original question is an absurd assumption, while this question (here above) is a denial of its own definition.

I say so by the authority of sheer logic of standard, social behaviour.

I don't think you are fully aware of the difference between the terms "interpretation" and "decision".

So you are agreeing with me bu you don't want to admit it?

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Nor do I.

 

The bearer of this tattoo is probably saying, "If you think I am ugly just flip me over and carry on."

 

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Yeaaaah...Really edgy indeed....

 

We definitely need a funny button here for posts like this. I don't think the back side is looking much better though!

 

And we do allow that. The prime issue here in not just what others think, but the thinking of the person themselves- and not just today. People change, not only in looks and values as they mature, but in fairly short terms as they chase what is popular at the moment- and then, the moment is gone. If you fail to give that some consideration, you may do some very regrettable things. That is part of the judgment issue here- are you wise enough to preserve your own assets? Tattoos change too; they degrade with time so none endure as the art they may have been intended to be... but they do endure. One of the more disfiguring favorites that is around now is "eye zippers" partially open zippers down the cheekbones, appearing to expose facial muscle and tissue. Imagine seeing yourself in the mirror each morning with that 5 years later. How long does the "It's me- my expression, I'm cool" impression last? Who would want to wake up each morning looking at it? Tattoos reflect on long-term judgement, because they are choices of permanence.
Like it or not, the choices we make define us. Purple hair or goth makeup goes away- and we can re-define ourselves as we mature or as times change. With tattoos, it's often like having said something really stupid, then having it replay like a stuck record, for everyone to hear for the rest of your life. Of course- you do have the right to do that to yourself. My question is- What the hell were you thinking??

 

LOL I never said that wasn't okay.

 

Well, that tattoo certainly iz big pizza pie in your eye. Amore? Perhaps.

 

When it hits your eye? Yep! When it's that close it's amore alright!

 

Oh yes. Or too much scotch.

 

This skanky broad was in Swedish Big Brother or some other retarded reality show I believe. Not too unsurprising that someone like her would be covered in tattoos, yes? Not saying that every girl who has a tattoo is a degenerated skank, but surely there is at least some correlation. I would guess only certain personality types are drawn to things like body arts. Or perhaps I am just being a judgemental prude.


As a matter of fact, the same thing goes for guys. This bloke was in the same show and he too has tattoos all over his body. The typical d0uchebag, right?


Icky.

PS. No, I do not watch stupid tv-shows where people drink their faces off and fornicate on camera. It is just hard to avoid the contestors because apparently they are celebs worthy of attention now loals.

 

I would like to get more of your perspective on the above point. First can you define "trashy", and secondly can you explain how the mere presence of a tattoo makes a woman trashy? Also is trashy a look or an action, or both? If it is an action, then is it possible for a woman to have a tattoo yet not be trashy in action? Can looks not be deceiving?

 

Questions are a way to gain information thus making assumption unnecessary. We disagree upon what constitutes assumption.

Assumption; a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof. -Google

Who sets and adjudicates social behavior on the topic of tattoos on women? What objectively makes tattoos socially unacceptable to some?

Decisions can be based upon an interpretation, like the choice to judge a woman as a negative simply because one interprets a tattoo as a negative.

If you believe that it is illogical to judge a woman as a negative based upon a single superficial thing then yes, else no.

 

What makes you think that tattoos are about being cool? I imagine that for some it is about being cool, but to me it is just something that I like. I did not get my tattoo to be cool, I got it because I liked the art on others and wanted to have a tattoo myself. Me, I am the antithesis of cool as I found decades ago that the pursuit of being cool an empty and shallow endeavor.

And what judgment is passed depends upon whom you ask thus it is subjective.

How others see me rarely matches how I see myself. How one judges another says more about the judge than the judged. So why judge them as a negative? If someone gets a tattoo and later regrets it, then that is their burden to carry, so what is the point of judging them? Why cast stones from your glass house?

How is it that you have come up with these perspectives on tattoos? Indoctrination, or have you actually sought out people with tattoos to better understand the diverse reasons people get them?

Ask people with tattoos this question and you will get many different answers. I got my tattoo in the 80's when I was drunk (FYI I am a man), and lucky the tattoo turned out well and I still enjoyed it. Heck if I were in a better financial position I would get more. I am completely at a loss as to why so many feel the need to judge what for me and many others have been a harmless superficial aspect of ourselves.

Judging others should be reserved for those who are harming self or others. So please tell me how my tattoo is harming me or others? (My tattoo is an artistic take on my initials and is located on my right shoulder).

 

Define "skanky" then tell me how a single pic proves that she is skanky. IMO skanky is an action, not a look ergo from my POV there are plenty of skanky people who do not have a single tattoo, thus my confusion of your correlating skanky with tattoos?

The better question is why would anyone even care if a woman does or does not have tattoos? I think the woman looks beautiful.

So what is the boundary that separates a tattooed woman from a skanky tattooed woman?

I agree as beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

So what is the point of being the above?

Define what it is for a human to be a douchbag. Objectively what makes one a douchbag? How can you inerrantly tell from a single picture if a man is a douchbag or not?

 

I understand you have given this serious thought. The post referred to the personal impression that I have regarding tattoos on an otherwise pretty woman. The broader issue of tattoos has a lot of variables, including your gender, your age, the locations of tattoos and very importantly, the nature of the tattoos. It is true they don't harm others- but that wasn't the point at all. The point is that it strikes so many people as being disrespectful to yourself, of adding permanent graffiti to the only piece of human artwork you will ever own, that it can send a very negative message, just as if you carried a sign or verbally said so- except that tomorrow it will still be there. That can have an impact on ones ability to interact with society, it can have major effect- and that does harm that person's potential. Those who are into tattoos feel that it is unfair to allow that to enter into how people see them- yet they have marked themselves precisely to be seen by doing it. For the most part, people's judgement remains private. By that I mean that while they don't say anything, they make choices of what they like, just as you have. They will act on those choices, just as you have- and in many cases, that would mean not dating a person that might otherwise appeal to them. Not getting a job because a prospective employer finds them not suitable to represent the company. Everyone is entitled to make judgments regarding their own decisions, and in fact must do so wisely to navigate life with any success. .I find it sad when people close doors to their own futures by making irreversible decisions without serious consideration of the larger picture. It is their life, not mine, that is changed by their choices. I'm all in favor of every individual having high self-esteem, being confident and strong, proud of who they are- but I know that comes from within. I believe that most of the time, tattoos are sought because others are doing it- to fit in. That is what I meant by the term "cool"- acceptable in the current social circle the person is hanging around with. I don't want to dictate anyone's choice, but I would like to suggest they think long and hard about making irreversible choices like this. In many cases, it will affect their futures.

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I understand you have given this serious thought. The post referred to the personal impression that I have regarding tattoos on an otherwise pretty woman. The broader issue of tattoos has a lot of variables, including your gender, your age, the locations of tattoos and very importantly, the nature of the tattoos. It is true they don't harm others- but that wasn't the point at all. The point is that it strikes so many people as being disrespectful to yourself, of adding permanent graffiti to the only piece of human artwork you will ever own, that it can send a very negative message, just as if you carried a sign or verbally said so- except that tomorrow it will still be there. That can have an impact on ones ability to interact with society, it can have major effect- and that does harm that person's potential. Those who are into tattoos feel that it is unfair to allow that to enter into how people see them- yet they have marked themselves precisely to be seen by doing it. For the most part, people's judgement remains private. By that I mean that while they don't say anything, they make choices of what they like, just as you have. They will act on those choices, just as you have- and in many cases, that would mean not dating a person that might otherwise appeal to them. Not getting a job because a prospective employer finds them not suitable to represent the company. Everyone is entitled to make judgments regarding their own decisions, and in fact must do so wisely to navigate life with any success. .I find it sad when people close doors to their own futures by making irreversible decisions without serious consideration of the larger picture. It is their life, not mine, that is changed by their choices. I'm all in favor of every individual having high self-esteem, being confident and strong, proud of who they are- but I know that comes from within. I believe that most of the time, tattoos are sought because others are doing it- to fit in. That is what I meant by the term "cool"- acceptable in the current social circle the person is hanging around with. I don't want to dictate anyone's choice, but I would like to suggest they think long and hard about making irreversible choices like this. In many cases, it will affect their futures.

 

Perhaps to you, but the point is central to my argument. By what logic would one judge harmless action as a negative? If a tattoo in and of itself causes no harm to anyone then what objection do you have beyond a subjective preference? Why should I or anyone care about how you judge them, especially when judgment is a dual edged sword that cuts both ways? Why not be tolerant of something that you may find weird but is ultimately harmless?

And why exactly would a tattoo strike "so many people as being disrespectful to yourself"?

What negative message does it send and why? If a tattoo causes no harm then by what logic is there to view a tattooed individual as a negative?

Why would anyone even care?

Indeed, and the negative effects are caused by others intolerance of harmless action. I get it, some people will view me as a negative because I am a man with long hair and a tattoo, but that does not make me a bad man or objectively a negative. Again I say how one judges another says more about the judge than the judged. In reality I am collage educated, have traveled to three foreign countries and lived in one and live my life in a way that avoids harming others to the highest extent possible. So why should it matter if some biased person judged me as a negative based upon such a superficial thing as a tattoo? Other peoples biases are not caused by me nor are they my problem.

No, people with tattoos do not like those who apply biased stereotypes to them singularly because of a tattoo which causes no harm to anyone.

Indeed, but how one judges another says more about the judge than the judged as we rarely see others how they see themselves.

Yet I find it unwise to judge someone as a negative based upon harmless action such as having a tattoo. Now there are exceptions to the rule like a tattoo that has a racial slur implies that the wearer espouses the slur and as I oppose racism I would take a negative view of the wearer.

How do you know that they did not make a "serious consideration of the larger picture"? Do you believe that your perspective is the correct perspective of the "larger picture", or do you understand that the "larger picture" is subjective?

What is the above belief based upon?

Again, how do you know that they haven't?

And not always in a bad way. I cannot think of a single time my tattoo has negatively effected my past or present and I doubt it will negatively effect my future.

 

And your tattoo is initials on the shoulder of a man, usually under your shirt. It does not sound insulting, obnoxious or particularly noteworthy other than for your own purpose. It would have virtually no impact on your life.

So- why don't you get something like a life-size tarantula tattooed on your face? Or perhaps F-X_X_K YOU on your forehead? Because you know it will become your prime identity, and that is not the message you want to send.

There is an old saying about arguments for some situations- That if you understand, no explanation is necessary- and if you don't understand, no explanation is possible.
That is due to the state of mind of the individual. I think you understand the point exactly, but feel compelled to reject the logic because you are uncomfortable with it. Harmless to others? Sure- but harmless to yourself? Definitely not. Keep thinking here. Are many tattoos often offensive to others? Absolutely. Are there consequences to being offensive? Absolutely. Belching loudly at the Christmas dinner table harms no one- but it offends many, and that changes they way they see your character and values. Like it or not, our options in life depend greatly on other people and our relationships. What we say about ourselves, in actions, words or the way we present ourselves affects how we are seen, and what opportunities we attract.

When a beautiful girl tattoos a big set of handlebars and "Ride Free" above her ass and goes to the beach or dresses to show it, she is making a public statement. No doubt it will attract some flattering attention from certain kinds of people- free is always popular to some. However, she may never be aware of how many others saw something beautiful morph into totally unattractive when she turned around, and unacceptable in the social environment they value. Is she harmed by the loss of opportunity or respect she is unaware that she might have had? Think on that one.

 

Good analysis. Of course, you are right, but there is something to be said for accuracy in labeling.

 

Since most young women today get a tattoo its now those who dont who are edgy and non conformists

 

It is difficult for youth to resist pop trends.