Should have smashed on the first date. Why on earth would you text your own self those messagses ?? LOL
Might I recommend you stop taking the game so seriously? You will NEVER understand women...no man ever will. The best we can hope for is a measure of happiness, contentment, and loyalty in love. From experience I will tell you these thing require maturity and knowing herself....nice breasts are merely a bonus. Though a damn good one.
cause I saw what was happening and i needed a little self-therapy to deal with the situation. i was gonna be having dinner with them for a while, and i had to find a way to cope. i am just very glad, that i didn't send her an angry message or something calling her a (*)(*)(*)(*)(*) or a whore or a slut. that would have been very bad. what i did send her, was some honest thoughts...private thoughts but still honest. i realized (again) last nigth, that im looking for a partner and to have at elast one kid. making out with 24 year olds who are brand new to nyc and jobless..while drunk...is a (*)(*)(*)(*)ty way of trying to accomplish that. i made a mistake. will we end up being friends? maybe...in a while. but for not i am now going to speak to her. i still feel sooooo stupid for what happened last night.
I think you take things too serious, and you still enjoyed yourself even though it didnt work out. chalk it up for what it was and move on, but move on with a bit more confidence since you know you still got it. Learning to laugh at yourself is a very good thing to do and doing it publicly can also make you more attractive because it shows confidence. If you go around looking for someone you are going to spend your life with, you probably wont find it. Go out and find someone that makes you laugh, you make them laugh, and you can just be yourself. Don't be afraid to go a bit farther in the sexual area , just wear a condom and make sure you dont get too attached. Just try and have fun, and you'll be someone that others want to be around. When it comes to approaching a second ( or I guess first date) dont do it in a super formal way or secretive. Also, dont make it so she has to reply and impact your plans... so for instnace Dont say " hey , do you want to meet me up at Reno's bar for dinner tmmr ? " Say " Hey dork I am heading up to Reno's for some drinks if you wanna join us " Bring other friends and stuff along because it will make it easier on both of you and will show her the fun side of you.
Im still thinking to myself "why would she claim to like me and make out with me if she had no intention of actually giving us a chance?" I have now counted 3 women that I have hung out with, 2 within the last year, that I hung out with and had sexual relations with, and then never hung out with them again. I guess if I can do these things, so can the girl from last night. Otherwise Im a big fat hypocrite guy.
I would closely evaluate any possible action or attitude on your part than may have led to a women(Girl) deciding against being with you...as there is obviously something there to see. Simple because someone states they "Like" you or makes out with you does not mean they want to be with you...anymore than you doing so would mean she is your girlfriend. Females play games just as we do...often better as they have more power to use. Take a close look at your confidence projection, as that may be a problem.
i talked too much. and she found a younger, more attractive, more charming guy. and maybe she was just having fun, like 24 year olds do...and sometimes 38 year olds. ....and yet its still depressing. Especially when you see it happening right infrotn of your own eyes.
You got to get over it.....guarantee is happened to her, the guy shes with now, you before, your dad, mom, me, my friends, etc... Let it roll of your shoulders.
i am a little worried about the guy that she was with last night. he is a 9-year Army Vet. Killed a guy in 2004. Told us all he has abandonment issues. Was divorced at age 24. Seems to have some anger...and maybe even bullying issues? He spoke to one of our members yesterday in a way that I found a little troubling, and I came to the guys defense as he was just being his quirky self. I actually really did try to be friends with him, but I guess he wasn't interested.
Worried or not, she is a 24 year old adult and i would NOT bring this up with her in any way. It will make her think you are (*)(*)(*)(*)ing crazy/ jealous , trust me lol.
im not that kind of person. i would only inform someone about their partner, if i thought they were a real danger to them...emotionally or physically.
The best thing you could do at this point is block your number and call her 30 + times a day and just breath into the phone.
no, the best thing is to find a new love interest. and make a list of all the things wrong with the gal in the OP. sometimes sour grapes, can be liberating/healing.
Relax dude...and buck up. The beauty being you are young and in the WTF process, and so are they. In time things will change as you become more adept ( this takes as long as it needs to), and begin to seek more maturity in a mate...interestingly we do not do so until we are worthy of the true woman. Reading my own post I come off as some kinda pro at this...I am NOT. None of us ever will be, but we can be a wonderful addition to a good woman's life. signed~ Colonel Angus
Pardon the language in the following anecdote... That's not that bad, I'll tell you about being emasculated while on a date. She proceeds to hit on a guy (bartender) while we were seated at the bar waiting on a table to open in a restaurant. Not harmless conversation, I mean, exchanging phone numbers. Granted this was a 1st date, this woman owed me nothing; however it isn't necessary to chop someone's balls off in the process of showing them there is no "chemistry." I was kind of stunned, but chose not to make a scene. I even paid for the dinner, however conversation at that point was awkward. I knew I'd never call or see her again, so it was pointless to get to know her or vice versa. So really my friend, getting dumped for a younger guy, by a younger woman, ain't all that bad. Your balls are still intact at least.
i think with maybe more my time, when she's 10 years older, less of a lush, and has a little more backbone. she's smart and nice, but she was really kind of hard on me for not being able to drink as much as her or as fast as her. and last night she was just drinking the stupidest thing I have ever seen. No adult drinks such a monstrousity at Dallas BBQ unless they are kinda....dumb. Or really young. and yeah, we went to Dallas BBQ. I feel very ashamed. I posted on FB and all my friends are like "wtf?????" so yeah, she's too young, drinks too much, too judging of folks who dont drink as much as her, and needs a little bit more self control. and who knows what else about her i dont know. maybe she is a big ol' slut bag now because she felt mediocre in high school and college. is that what I want? not really.
Let it....and her go dude, it's not worth it and neither is she. Simply KNOW you are a bad ass...act like it...let the womenses see it...and be happy....eventually.
Her problem. Not yours. We're not knights in shiny armor rescuing damsels in distress, they make choices, they live with the choices. You're not her brother, father or uncle. She dates a loose cannon, that's on her. Don't lose any sleep or get any gray hairs over someone who more than likely would not blink if you got hit by a bus tomorrow. Callous perhaps, but 24 years old is an adult, you want to babysit, at least get paid for it.
i simply hope she doesn't meet the guy that I feel I met yesterday. but knowing him, his history, chances are she will meet that guy. oh well...not my (*)(*)(*)(*)ing problem. I just hope she doesn't get hurt...again.
In terms of this person's dating choices being good or bad. Whiskey Charlie. Who Cares. Seriously dude...man to man. Let it go. I've been there, and done that. You're holding on to something trying to be the nice guy here. You really care about her, yeah we get it. If only she sees you really care, maybe she'll come around. Not gonna happen. Short of being tied to railroad tracks against her will, you are not responsible in any way, shape or form for her well being. Distance yourself emotionally, the sooner the better.
Hope is a wonderful thing....and useless. Hope is not anchored in reality, it is a fabricated and imagined human condition that does more harm than good...even if it make us "Feel" better. You wish to be an attractive man to females?...stop acting like a boy. No WOMAN is looking for a little boy...as in NONE OF THEM. Girls like messing with boys, women like dealing with men...time to become one.
