Women share their abortion experiences

If I get pregnant when I don't want to it will mean that my birth control has failed me and I will then have an abortion, thus taking control of my own reproductive health.

 

How often does this happen to you?

 

Hasn't happened yet.

 

So your in this thread not share an experience, your here to denigrate the trauma of women who found abortion to be more than a bad choice, for what reason, a political agenda?

 

Ironic, the one member in this forum who has come out and admitted to having an abortion, deeply regrets her decision and is pro-life.

 

Wrong, there have been at least two men who said their partners had an abortion and it was the right decision for them.

 

How about some stories of survivors of abortion, why are the Choice for Murder advocates not presenting the entire story.

http://www.theabortionsurvivors.com/

 

This is coming from the men, I would like to hear the women's side of it. Often it is the man that wants that abortion more than the woman.

 

I will admit to it... ask what you want. I do not regret my choice. It was the best option for me at the time. Do I still think of the choice I made? Yes. Do I regret it? No.

 

What were you circumstances at the time and what did you believe the impact the baby would have on your life. Not trying to draw you into a post I can flame or argue with, I am just generally curious and like to know.

 

Why did you copulate with a man you neither loved nor respected?

 

Why do you ask a question which purpose is to shame a new member from sharing her experience.

 

I dont mind answering questions, I am sure some people will jump on me for my choice and I expect that. At the time I was in my late 20's, I had (have) a great career, my own place, dont use any form of government assistance (and never have) . I was dating a guy and we had only been dating a few months when I found out I was pregnant. It was one of those, i was on a med that messed with the birth control things. And he wasnt using protection. I ended up pregnant. We discussed it and he was not very excited (rightfully so). I was already raising one child on my own. I was not financially or emotionally ready to raise 2 on my own. My daughter, who is a teeanger now, has alot of interests...soccer (year round), ski club, volunteering at the cat shelter, horseback riding ete etc. I know that if I had another child, I would not be able to give both of them the time and oppurtunities they both would have deserved. I am sure I would have needed help (whether from my parents or the govt) and I was not going to leech off others for the well being of my own children. If I was to get pregnant now (but who are we kidding, I have to actually have sex to get pregnant) I think I would be in a better place and wouldnt make the same decision. But at the time, the decision I made was best for me.

 

Dont worry about it kotcher...I knew I would get flamed.

 

The premise is false, so I need say no more in response.

If any of this is supposed to be responsive to my question, it isn't.

If it was for a mental disorder, which one?

So why not put it up for adoption?

But you haven't been, at least by me. Taking you at your word, I asked you a question which, though admittedly impolitic, was perfectly straightforward.

 

No, the premise is true, explain how the premise is false.

 

Ha..no mental disorder as of yet, just young and scared. When I had my first child I was married. Granted it was a short marriage but I had someone there "with me". As far as the adoption route... I was selfish in that aspect. I knew if I carried to term I would not give it up (then subsequently struggle financially for the rest of my life). The boyfriend was also pushing for an abortion. I know whatever I say will not make sense to you... but it did for me at that moment. It is a lot of emotions to go thru.

 

I'll be happy to, the minute you prove you're no longer beating your wife.

 

You made this statement, this statement is not true, why did you make this statement?

 

Well of course he was, because he was a worthless scoundrel who didn't give a damm about you beyond your ability to help him get his rocks off - hence my original question. Either you had an inkling as to his lack of character or you didn't. If the latter, you would do well to reflect on your blindness in that regard; and if the former, you would do well to reflect on your attraction to characterless men.

Some of it does, at least up to a point.

Yes, emotional reactions breed more of the same, which complicates our lives to the point where we end up with a Hobson's choice; and nothing breeds such emotionalism like the misuse of women by men and vice versa.

 

No, I asked a question...

...and questions are neither true nor false. So stop wasting my time with nonsense unless you're determined to earn a place on my ignore list.

 

I know you asked mainly for the womens experience but this is from a guys.

My girlfriend and I had been together for 2 years (we have been together 7 as of 2/1/2013)

we found out she was pregnant and I beleive she was 2-3 weeks into it before she really got sick. For the first 3 years we dated (before and after she was pregnant) I had been sending her to the doctors every month !00 dollars of my paycheck (she was going to school and I was supporting her through it) was going to get being healthy. I would always seperate 200 one for her doctors visits and one incase she needed anything afterwards and if she didnt would be for her to go somewhere nice to eat or buy herself something since i was usually at work (to keep her busy after appointments type of things)

She went to her visit when she found out and her health was bad that the doctor told us if she proceeds she could not make it with the baby. I basically made the decision more then she did to have the abortion because she was still on the fence about it and I told her I would rather have her then have a family and she isnt in it.

Every year we both sit and talk about it and always have it in the back of our heads about it. We get pssed. that we know people haveing kids who will be bad parents but can have kids all they want.

I get mad knowing my sister who was able to finally have 2 kids (after haveing 2 miscarradges and one baby born still born) to finally have her daughters and she cherish's them had to go through so much to have her children when others who have kids and dont treat them properly or teach them immorally to leech of a system because they dont want to work and feel everything needs to be given to them. Its something your never going to forget and something you will always remember. It becomes a part of you and hopefully makes you think things through more clearly.

 

There is a statement within your question, do you lack the comprehension to understand your own post? I hope this earned my place on your ignore list, I bet you respond so it will take at least another go around to get on your ignore list. I will try and help you and give you another comment which should push me onto your ignore list, I doubt it will work but its worth a try.

It appears yguy is on his own ignore list as yguy ignores yguy's own post.

 

What was bad about her health?

 

She was anemic and had other issues.

When I started dateing her we were working at Vanity Fair (Warehouse picking the womens clothings to be shipped) We worked 12 hours days (I loved it 800 dollars every two weeks) But..she's had knee problems since she was little cant keep her balance well (didnt know this at the time) and Her checks were going to her family (her brother was in the hospitol, Her dad and mother didnt work at the time and she would go from 7am to 7pm to work then head to the hospitol and then head home at 12. What I noticed she would eat was a snickers bar and a monsters energy drink (When monster actually had oomph) She would bleed and wouldnt bleed till a few days later she was tiny, and she would get sick weekly (due to diet) she was only eating once since she had to do a 60 mile trip every day and had a full size car she bought cheap so she could work. The first four years (roughly) she never had a period. which was why it was surprising she was pregnant. She's been a lot better hasnt had to goto the docs in 2 years (sent her for 5 years) I joke with her about having to rebuild her for 6000 lol she dosnt like it but we are completely opposits but we get alonge well and i couldnt be without her. Tell her how lucky I am to have her and I am. She rides on the back of the bike with me and stayed with me when I wanted to smoke the tires on my truck when my neice was stillborn. She was dealt some rough cards in life as was I (My uncles tend to tell me this often) But what dosnt kill you makes you stronger and what makes you stronger dosnt mean it still wont kill you. lol